BY LAUGHING AT THE STUPIDITY OF SIN
Hashem is of course the best M'chanech, and He chose making jokes out of Mitzrayim and their Treife lifestyle in order to give the best and most effective Mussar Shmuess and to help us overcome our Yetzer Hara in a happy way with our laughing at the stupidity of sin. Not always do people know how to be M'chanech others properly.
The Gemara warns a Rebbe: תֶבֶרָקְמ ןיִמָיְו הָחוֹדּ לאֹמְשׂ אֵהְתּ םָלוֹעְל You are M'karev (bring close) strongly, with your right (dominant) hand, and if you need to reprimand, do it lightly, like a weak left hand. And not like Elisha HaNavi who pushed away his Talmid, Geichazi with two hands! There was no Tzaddik like Elisha HaNavi, who cried bitterly when he realized the cruelties the Melech Aram would eventually do to Klal Yisroel.
He didn’t talk to women, and the Shunamis said: אוּה שׁוֹדָק he is a holy man. He performed double the Nissim of his Rebbe, Eliyahu HaNavi, and he was M'kadesh Shem Shamayim many times. He left his beloved family in order to be with Eliyahu HaNavi.
Yet, Chazal criticize Elisha for pushing away his Talmid, Geichazi with two hands and caused him to become a Metzora. Geichazi went off the Derech, and he lost his Olam HaBah. When Elisha asked Geichazi to do Teshuva, Geichazi told him “Because of you, I went off the Derech, when you said: ןיֵא ,םיִבַּרָה תֶא איִטֲחַמוּ אֵטוֹחַה הָבוּשְׁתּ תוֹשֲׂﬠַל וֹדָיְבּ ןיִקיִפְּסַמ One who causes the Rabim to sin, is not granted the opportunity to do Teshuva.” (Gemara). Sometimes the wrong Mussar Shmuess (as true as it can be) may be poison.
An Adam Gadol once told me that what I heard from a different Adam Gadol was poison for me, but good for others. The Mesilas Yesharim speaks about a Gadol who can help others because he himself had gone through the same Nisyonos. I know stories of people demanding Torah and/or Chesed from others (which is indeed Gevaldig, bringing major Yeshuos and Brachos; and plenty Gehinom without them!) and they can Mamash kill them if these Shmuessin are not appropriate for them.
The Yetzer Hara Has All Kinds of Tricks Just to Make You Depressed
How dare you stop learning? / Where are your feelings for others? / What happened to your Zikkui HaRabbim?/ You are Over on (violating): ˃ֶﬠֵר םַדּ לַﬠ דֹמֲﬠַת אֹל! / According to Chazal you are a Rasha! / Your low Kedusha level and your unending Ka'as! / You should be whipped for your Atzvus (depression) level! / What’s with you? Where’s your Simcha? Or Bitachon! / You’re an ingrate! You have no Middos!
Although people may not be saying things like this to you, many, many, people have Chazal’s in their heads that are causing “slow death” to their energy level, since their guilt is all over themselves. You yourself could be that Rebbe who pushes his Talmid with two hands and is too harsh!
You may need plenty of: היֵרְטַפּ אָנָמְחַר סֵנוֹא ב"ק כח ב (a person who acted involuntarily who is not responsible) and: ויָתוֹיִרְבּ םִﬠ אָיְנוּרְטְבּ אָבּ אוּה ˂וּרָבּ שׁוֹדָקַה ןיֵאע"ז ג א Hashem does not act with tyranny (i.e., to demand the impossible) from His creations, and you may in a sense be considered a: ִתּינוֹ ֶשׁ ק ִנ ְשׁ ָבּ ְל ה ֵב ַה ןי ָנ ְכ ִר םי baby who grew up among the gentiles (who knows nothing about Yiddishkeit), or a Bechina (type) of a: שׁוֹ ֶטה (mentally impaired) who is Patur (exempt) from all the Mitzvos. Of course, you need to watch out, and have a Rebbe guide you. A Yungerman cried like a baby to me, since a great person refused to acknowledge the severe traumas, he had gone through, which were causing all kinds of debilitating problems in Ruchaniyus and Gashmiyus. He said: “Stop being a baby and move on.”
Of course, there are no: ְכּ ָל ִל םי rules, and there are plenty of success stories where people blindly followed their Rebbe or parents, and were Zoche to great things. I once met a Chasidishe Admor who is a major Talmid Chochom. He told me that many people need to avoid Mussar Shmuessin that are: תּ וֹ ֵב ַﬠ (exacting) and make demands on people. Often, the best Shmuess is constant appreciation for your positive side, and keep out of all mistakes and sins and weaknesses. The Yetzer Hara has all kinds of tricks just to make you depressed.