A Yungerman who is a major Masmid, Talmid Chochom, and Rosh Chabura would come home full of stress, since he had a difficult childhood. He now learns Shaar HaBitachon and other Inyanei Bitachon for over an hour daily. As he learns Mussar, he gets happier and happier, and his wife and children are overjoyed. I was asked: ָהיֶלָﬠ אֵהְתּ הַמ הָרוֹתּ “But what will be with all the learning he is losing out? He is wasting so much precious time by working on Simcha and learning Inyanei Bitachon! Do you know how much Torah he could have learned instead?? Such a major Ben Torah should lose so much Torah on a regular basis??
Do I need to decide such a Shayla? Take your pick: Do you want to be a bigger Talmid Chochom and keep hurting your wife and kids (and yourself) and quite possibly end up in the hospital, with physical or mental issues, and be Nichshal in either Kin'ah, Ta'ava, Kavod, Ga’ava, תוּלְפִשׁ יִמַהְבַּה lowliness like a loser, and all kinds of unhealthy complexes and depressions (or all of the above, Rachmana Litzlan) ... or not?!
It is obvious that Hashem wants this Yungerman to take care of: םָדָאָה תוּיִח רָקיִﬠhis main purpose in life; i.e., תוֹדִמַה תַריִבְשׁ Shviras HaMiddos. And if a person does Ratzon Hashem, there is no doubt that he will come out ahead, even in his learning
