I’m of course happy to learn that your shalom bayis improved, but for others reading this, I would like to point out that often, it isn’t as simple as that. While this is the correct way of going about things, it doesn’t always mean that everything will automatically be wonderful afterward. A wife who puts her husband’s feelings before those of her parents is generally doing the right thing and will earn tremendous blessing, but people are complicated, and sometimes, solving one problem is like peeling an onion — all it leads to is revealing the next layer, bringing to the fore the problem hidden beneath.
It’s quite common for what seems like a question of priorities to be masking something else entirely. A husband who complains that his wife is more interested in pleasing her parents than him could be generally insecure and lacking in self-confidence. While her decision to put him first will quiet down the initial complaints, it won’t really solve everything. Similarly, a husband who simply likes feeling in control, might not change this pattern, and this issue will probably have to be addressed in order to really make the situation improve.
There are also cases where giving in on one thing just leads to the next demand, and more unhappiness and conflict. In such situations, one way of avoiding disappointment and frustration is to discuss things in advance, and make sure you both know what to expect after a change is made.
