STORY
Betzalel Elbaum is a traveling salesman. He is a Tzaddik Gamur in his Hanhaga, like in Shmiras Einayim etc. Out of 100 regular visits, by 99% he is A-1. Only by one visit does he have Nisyonos of misbehavior. There, he is almost a totally different person, and he needs lots of improvement. Every time I meet him, all he talks about is this one weakness that he has.
Baruch Hashem, he has come a long way, especially since he is encouraged to avoid that one place altogether. But he isn't finished, and he still needs plenty of Avoda with Gedarim (safeguards), etc. Recently, he has a new place where he also has to be careful, since he can be weak there also; although this is much easier than the first.
He asked me why after all these years does he have a new Nisayon. I suggested that instead of always focusing on his weak spot, perhaps every time he comes to me he should be talking about thankfulness for those 99 total success stories. I know somebody who spent two months only thanking for a Ruchaniyus'dik success, and afterwards his weaknesses disappeared.
This is true in all areas, like Bittul Torah, Ka'as, Chesed, Tefila, Zikkui HaRabbim, Bain Adam La'chaveiro. Instead, focus on your successes, the children in your family who are giving Nachas, the successful childbirths, the Chelek in Torah that you excel in, etc.
