Not Responding When Embarrassed:
We learn from Moshe that one who is shamed should not respond. Even when Aharon and Miriam spoke against Moshe and embarrassed him, he humbly accepted it and did not fight back. We are meant to emulate him and do the same.
The Peleh Yoetz zt”l (Sefer Yaalzu Chasidim, page 73) writes: “There is an obligation on every person, especially on one who has sinned and wants to do teshuva, to be very lowly of spirit, to be humble and to be forbearing. When shamed, he should not answer back. He should be happy when suffering embarrassment. If people shame him by reminding him of his previous ways, he should reply: I know I sinned a lot. I did many improper things. Hashem should forgive me!
He should tolerate the embarrassment because he knows he has also embarrassed people, and Hashem is repaying him measure-for-measure. Therefore, it should not be bad in his eyes and it will be an atonement for him. And it is good for a person to receive atonement in this world.
Shame ‘sheds a person’s blood’ and removes transgressions, as Chazal say (Yoma 85B) that in order to do teshuva, one needs suffering, Yom Kippur and death to cleanse him, and since shame is comparable to death, he is still able to live.”
