Question: I’ve worked in the same corporate job for 20 years. Lately, I’ve felt I need more meaning. A friend suggested volunteering. I loved the idea and chose an organization whose mission really resonated. But once I got involved, I was disheartened. I saw infighting, politics, ego struggles—just like in the corporate world. If people helping others fall into the same flaws, what does that say about human nature? Should I stay or leave?
Answer: Your question is not only valid – it’s timeless. You step into a world of goodness, and yet still find ego, conflict, and politics. It can feel deeply disillusioning. But Chassidus offers a profound insight, teaching how to navigate with clarity and compassion.
The Tanya teaches that every Jew has two souls: A G-dly soul, drawn to truth, holiness, and selflessness & an animal soul, driven by ego, comfort, and instinct—even when masked as kindness or altruism. The animal soul isn’t evil; it just acts naturally, instinctively. Real growth begins when a person acts not because it feels right, but because it is right—according to the Divine will of Torah. Without Torah to guide, even noble people can act inconsistently.
So yes, someone can dedicate their life to good causes and still operate from ego and self-interests. That’s not hypocrisy—it’s a reflection of the inner struggle we all face. What you are seeing is people mid-process, not at the finish line. Like walking into a kitchen mid-cooking—it’s messy, but something is being made. These people, like all of us, are works in progress. Their behavior reflects not their destination, but their current place. Your disappointment is a sign of your own yearning for truth. Don’t lose that—but balance it with compassion.
Ask yourself: Why did I come? If it was to make a difference, that calling still stands. Your presence, integrity, and strength have a ripple effect. Others will notice.
Let go of judgment, not standards. Releasing judgment doesn’t mean accepting dysfunction, but rather rising above it with understanding and compassion. As Chassidus teaches: “A little bit of light dispels a lot of darkness.” Stay focused on your light. Hashem sees it. The world needs it.
Aharon Schmidt, marriage & individual counseling: www.aharonschmidt.com.
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