Shidduchim and the Power of a Name
Torah Wellsprings | May 21, 2024
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Shidduchim and the Power of a Name

Torah Wellsprings | June 27, 2025

Zelig was a good bachur, and no one could understand why it was taking him so long to find his bashert. On Lag b'Omer, Zelig's mother traveled by bus to Meron. She wanted to daven that her oldest son Zelig should find a shidduch. As she traveled, she remembered that years before, she and her husband had been married for several years and were not yet blessed with children. They had come to Meron to daven and promised that if they had a son, they would call him Shimon. But somehow, when the miracle occurred, and their son was born, they forgot about their promise and named him Zelig.

She immediately called her husband and reminded him of their error years before. She said, "Who knows? Perhaps if we had called him Shimon, he would have found his bashert already." The husband replied that he would call his rebbe and ask him what to do. The rebbe advised that they should call their son Shimon Zelig. The mother davened in Meron at the kever of Reb Shimon bar Yochai, requesting that her son “Shimon Zelig” should become engaged. The following Shabbos, the gabbai gave "Shimon Zelig" an aliyah, establishing his new name.

There was another Zelig in the beis medresh. He asked the gabbai, "Why did you call this bachur Shimon Zelig? Isn't his name Zelig?" The gabbai replied, "His father told me that from now on, I should call him Shimon Zelig. I don’t know why." Zelig had an older daughter. Long ago, he would have wanted Zelig as his son-in-law, but the name, the same as his, prevented him from considering it. But now that their names weren't exactly the same, he was willing to go ahead with the shidduch, and Shimon Zelig got engaged to Zelig's daughter!

Zelig was a good bachur, and no one could understand why it was taking him so long to find his bashert. On Lag b'Omer, Zelig's mother traveled by bus to Meron. She wanted to daven that her oldest son Zelig should find a shidduch. As she traveled, she remembered that years before, she and her husband had been married for several years and were not yet blessed with children. They had come to Meron to daven and promised that if they had a son, they would call him Shimon. But somehow, when the miracle occurred, and their son was born, they forgot about their promise and named him Zelig.

She immediately called her husband and reminded him of their error years before. She said, "Who knows? Perhaps if we had called him Shimon, he would have found his bashert already." The husband replied that he would call his rebbe and ask him what to do. The rebbe advised that they should call their son Shimon Zelig. The mother davened in Meron at the kever of Reb Shimon bar Yochai, requesting that her son “Shimon Zelig” should become engaged. The following Shabbos, the gabbai gave "Shimon Zelig" an aliyah, establishing his new name.

There was another Zelig in the beis medresh. He asked the gabbai, "Why did you call this bachur Shimon Zelig? Isn't his name Zelig?" The gabbai replied, "His father told me that from now on, I should call him Shimon Zelig. I don’t know why." Zelig had an older daughter. Long ago, he would have wanted Zelig as his son-in-law, but the name, the same as his, prevented him from considering it. But now that their names weren't exactly the same, he was willing to go ahead with the shidduch, and Shimon Zelig got engaged to Zelig's daughter!

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