The Medrash says that before Moshe Rabeinu was Niftar, he pleaded to Hashem to spare him that he shouldn’t die. So Hashem said: “Are you a bigger Tzaddik than Adam HaRishon and his Dor (who also died)?” Moshe replied: “I am, indeed! While Adam and Chava were lured by a snake, I revived the dead through a (copper) snake! Look how every evil (even a snake) can be used for good.
The Passuk describes a woman as an: עֵזֶר כְנֶגְדו בראשית ב יח Ezer K’negdo (a man’s “helpmate”/“opponent”). The Alter of Novardok Zatzal quipped that some people are given a potential: עֵזֶר (fine woman) but if they don’t work on their Middos (and they take advantage of the woman) they turn her into a: כְנֶגְדו (opponent). But those who are smart, can make an: עֵזֶר (friend) out of a: כְנֶגְדו (foe).
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I knew a Novardoker who was looking into a Shidduch with a divorced woman. People warned him that he’ll surely never get along with that “witch”.... but he laughed at them, and married her. I was once at his house, and I noticed how she admired and respected him. While I was there, I observed how he gave her a loud compliment for her wonderful cooking abilities.
Notice how Moshe Rabeinu was sharp, and how he appreciated himself, and he fought for his life. Despite his glorious and successful career, he still wanted to continue living, so that he could be M'kadesh Shem Shamayim. (Medrash). We need to learn from Moshe how to daven with the proper: ק תְ יפוּת determination. Of course, we need Hadracha (guidance) not to get carried away when speaking to the: מֶלֶךְ מַלְכֵי הַמְל כ ים King of Kings, HaKadosh Baruch Hu.
