Question: I am deeply upset about the ceasefire. While I thank Hashem for the return of some hostages, I am heartbroken and angry at our government’s weakness. Hamas remains in control, kidnappings are incentivized, freed terrorists pose new threats, and once again, we failed to defeat our enemies. How can I cope with this and make a difference?
Answer: In 1979, Israel exchanged 76 terrorists for one Jewish soldier. The Rebbe strongly opposed this agreement, arguing that it encourages further kidnappings and endangers Jewish lives. Sadly, as history has shown since then, terrorism, kidnappings, and capitulating to terrorists have only worsened.
When Hamas—may their memory be erased—butchered, tortured and kidnapped our people on Simchat Torah, many believed, “surely now the government will finish them off once and for all.” Given the devastation of that massacre and our hope for decisive action, the government's decisions are all the more agonizing. You are not alone in your feelings. While we share the joy of our hostages' return, the sense of defeat is undeniably painful. As the Zohar states: “Weeping is lodged in one side of my heart, and joy is lodged in the other side of my heart.”
Despite the pain, we can take meaningful steps and also improve how we feel:
- Do What You Can: Each of us plays a vital role in preparing the world for Moshiach. Strengthen you Torah and mitzvot and consider taking on something new.
- Emuna: In hindsight, we can see how the events of Megillat Esther were essential for victory. Similarly, we are living through our own Megillah. We may not understand why events unfold as they do, but we must trust in Hashem’s plan.
- Bitachon: Trust that Hashem will bring revealed good. The stronger our bitachon, the more we open the way for blessings.
- Simcha: Joy creates channels for divine blessings, while worry and despair block them. Strive for happiness, even in these challenging times.
- Give: Giving benefits the receiver, improves the world, and uplifts the giver.
Learning about Moshiach hastens the coming of Moshiach and enables us to live with the spirit of Moshiach in our daily lives.
This test is undoubtedly challenging, but by deepening our emuna and bitachon in Hashem and actively working toward bringing Moshiach, we can find comfort and impact the world positively. As the Rambam teaches, a single good deed can tip the scales and bring redemption.
Aaron Schmidt, marriage and personal counseling. To schedule appointment, contact: [email protected]
