Bilam’s name comes from the word: בְ לִ יעָ ה swallowing; i.e., he looks for taking from others. This is why he was a major Rodef Kavod, and he caused the Yidden to have tremendous Ta'ava in order to estrange them from Hashem, since he knew that: אֱלֹקֵ יהֶם שֶל אֵלוּ, שוֹנֵא זִמָּה הוּא סנהדרין קו א Hashem abhors immorality. By getting Klal Yisroel to be involved in Z’nus, they were removed from Hashem; and they had a: מַ גֵ יפָ ה plague. Eliezer added that the girl has to want to give more than asked for: וְגַם לִגְמַלֶיךָ אֶשְאָב כד מד I will schlep water for your camels as well. Indeed, we do see Baalei Chesed who have Ta'avos. But perhaps a person has to love Chesed so much, that he wants to do more than he’s asked for.
This is exactly the way of Hashem, who created a world on His own, and without being asked. And He created people who never asked to be created. But in His love for Chesed, Hashem gave them mouths and teeth and stomachs and taste buds; just to do Chesed. A person like this is indeed distracted from himself, and he’s “starving” to help others. This is exactly Avraham Avinu, who desired to help people, even though it was a hot day with no people around.
A person doesn’t realize that: כָל הַנוֹתֵן נוֹטֵל when you give others, you are actually receiving (Alter of Novardok) since it gives you tremendous Simcha. People who are heavily involved in Klal work thrive. They have no self-esteem problems, and their Simcha level is super. They are the real Tzelem Elokim, i.e., who emulate Hashem.
This was the Tzara of Dor HaMabul who were Nichshal in Gezel & Arayos. Gezel means taking unjustly, and so is Arayos taking unjustly. Eliezer knew that Rivka was a Tz'nua by her extreme involvement in Chesed.
