This parashah discusses the incredibly important issue of shidduchim, and this is an opportune time to see what we can do to help the matzav.... Yiddishe kinder need great yeshu’os. Thus, we must look to Chazal for insights, eitzos, and understanding that will illuminate this sensitive topic that is so close to all our hearts.
One of the yesodos we know is that when it comes to drawing down a yeshuah—every yeshuah comes from Above. A yeshuah doesn’t come simply because a person decided that it should occur. This is because a yeshuah is a matter of shefah—and shefah comes only from Above. However, no shefah can come from Above without first being aroused by us below. Therefore, in order to draw down shefah, we must first engage in a spiritual arousal of that shefah, such as learning Torah, reciting tefillah, or performing a mitzvah action.
As it relates to shidduchim, the action of the mitzvah is to engage in the parashah of shidduchim and assist people in finding their zivug. The Gemara tells us (Shabbos 31a) that one of the questions a person will be asked when he comes before the Heavenly Court is, “Did you engage in פריה ורביה?” Maharsha (ibid.) explains that this refers to shidduchim; that is, whether a person engaged in making shidduchim. And through engagement in this mitzvah, a person is mevatel himself to the Ribbono shel Olam who commanded us to do this mitzvah—and he thereby arouses shefah from Above.
