We know that when there is, chas v’shalom, a blockage in the shefah—something that prevents it from coming down to us—it means that the Heavenly prosecutors are standing in the way and are blocking the shefah or otherwise preventing it from coming down. Therefore, when a person engages in Torah, tefillah, and mitzvos—the three pillars that bring shefah to the world—and the shefah still doesn’t arrive, he can conclude that he isn’t properly carrying out his Torah, tefillah, and mitzvos, and the מקטרגים are able to interfere with his shefah, R”l. This is how a Yid views the matter.
He doesn’t attribute it to a lack of wisdom or talent, and he doesn’t ascribe the delay in shidduchim to the fact that he doesn’t have enough money to promise to a prospective chassan or to the fact that someone gave negative information. He ignores all this noise—for they are not the true reasons for the delay in the shefah. These reasons may sometimes be the outer levush for the blockage in shefah. But the true reason for the hindrance in shefah is the מקטרגים who prevent it from coming down.
Like the Splitting of the Yam Suf
Chazal discuss this concept extensively, stating that every time it comes to making a shidduch, the מקטרגים have a special interest in thwarting it. Chazal (Sotah 2a) tell us, סוף, ים כקריעת אדם של זיווגו קשה the zivug of a person is as difficult as the splitting of the Yam Suf. Now, the actual splitting of the sea could not have been difficult for Hashem, for He has created the entire world and He continues to give it life at every moment. What difficulty would there be for Him to split the sea? The difficulty was due to the מקטרגים, the Prosecutors, who complained that ע»ז, עובדי והללו זרה עבודה עובדי הללו they [the Egyptians] worship false idols, and they [the Jewish People] worship false idols—there is no difference between them. The מקטרגים sought to stymie the shefah, the yeshuah, and hence it was “difficult” to split the sea.
The same takes place when it comes to shidduchim—when two neshamos attempt to come together, to find each other and create a tremendous yichud, a holy union, a kiddush Hashem, and the fulfillment of the purpose of creation. Since it involves a shefah of great benefit to the Shechinah, the מקטרגים have every interest in thwarting it.
The event of סוף ים קריעת was the greatest kiddush Hashem through which the entire world saw the wonders of Hashem and spoke about it. It brought Klal Yisrael to a level of prophecy of ואנוהו, א-לי זה to be able to literally point to Hashem... and this is why the קטרוג was so strong. The same occurs regarding shidduchim.
