I was told by an old Navardoker that when looking for Shiduchim, you can get anything you wish. He had unusual success marrying off his large family with the best Shiduchim quickly and efficiently. He has zero money, and yet he is always succeeding without having all kinds of Chovos. At one point, he developed a Chov of about $100,000, and he told me about it, as usual with his constant laughter and unending Bitachon.
I met him a year later, and he told me that a relative came along and raised the entire sum within a year. He told me that just like Hashem can give you exactly what you ask for in a Shidduch, so can He easily improve the people in your life that you may be concerned about. You keep working on Bitachon and Tefila, and watch. I, myself have witnessed miraculous changes in his family.
I saw chutzpadik teenagers turn into Gevaldige Baalei Middos and top Bnei Torah. I saw a cold and chilled married family member who appeared unfriendly, very into Gashmiyus, and very little sincerity about Yiddishkeit… a few years later I see an unbelievably friendly and warm and frum-type of a Ben Torah. A real Metzuyan!
A Novardoker once wanted a top Shidduch for his daughter, but his daughter refused this boy, despite his wishes. Instead, she married a very mediocre boy, who didn’t give a good impression at all. The father was a big Baal Bitachon, and he constantly kept saying: “It’s a Shidduch Min HaShamayim; this is what Hashem wants, and therefore this is what I want”. He kept working on being Mach'nia to Hashem's Ratzon.
Within a short few years, this Yungerman became a Metzuyan Gadol. He Shteiged and Shteiged miraculously, and today he is the pride of the family. This is the power of accepting Ratzon Hashem. בַּטֵּל רְצוֹנְךָ מִפְּנֵי רְצוֹנוֹ (Avos 2:4). Abandon your desires and accept His desire.
