I was once driving my car and was stopped by the police in front of Satmar Bais Medrash in Lakewood for doing something wrong. The cop walked away for a minute, and a Yungerman ran over to me to tell me to give in and to plead for a chance. Do you want to get a sure ticket? Tell the cop that he's wrong and he doesn't see straight and you know you're right! The tougher you are, the angrier he gets, and the more trouble you're asking for. Nobody likes a Baal Ga'ava, and everyone loves a soft person who isn't obstinate and who knows how to be M’vater and to give in. "I'm so sorry, officer. I'll try never to do that again."
Do you know why: דָוִד מֶלֶךְ יִשְרָאֵל חַי וְקַיָם and Dovid is known to be the most everlasting Koach in this world. Because Dovid always said, "I’m wrong." He was always: מוֹדֶה עַל הָאֶמֶת admitting to the truth, and even: מוֹדֶה עַל הַשֶקֶר admitting although he did no wrong. (Baalei Mussar). He knew how to give in! Such a person has a Kiyum (continued existence) in this world. Such a person has a marriage also. A Baal Ga'ava is impossible to work with. He has to be right! People call me up about their children who aren't wanted in camps and...
