בָא Av means “father”. It is striking that the month of all the Tzaros (and when it’s not favorable to have a: ִמ ְשׁ ָפּ ט court-case) is called a (loving) “father”.
There is a good reason why this dreadful month is called: בָא “father”. The closing words of Megilas Eicha are: וּנֵביִשֲׁהה' הָבוּשָׁנְו ˃יֶלֵא איכה ה כא “Bring us back to You, Hashem, and we will return”. Doing Teshuva is the final goal of the Aveilus of Tisha B'av, and indeed, right after Av comes Elul, which means time for Teshuva.
On Tisha B’av, the K'ruvim were hugging each other. Now, in Galus we need to focus on the potential positivism, and the great love and beauty in our lives if we do Teshuva. The Baal HaTurim says that the K'ruvim were like two friends speaking in learning. He also says that K'ruvim means children, like it says וּהֵבֲהֹאָו לֵאָרְשִׂי רַעַנ יִכּ אי עשוה א I love Klal Yisroel’s youthfulness.
A young child is full of innocence and Temimus and Bitachon, as it says: וֹמִּא יֵלֲע לֻמָגְכּ יִשְׁפַנ תהלים קלא ב I am in the hands of Hashem like a baby in his mother’s arms. Sunday, 5 Av will be the Arizal’s Yahrzeit. It is known that his great Madregos were earned through his great Simcha Shel Mitzva. I know a certain Yungerman, that when he says: ןֵמָא ˂ַרָבְמ אָבַּר הֵּמְשׁ אֵהְי he also thanks Hashem many times for the Zechus of saying this awesome Tefila (which is: ְמ ַב ֵט ְג ל ֵזירוֹ ת cancels harsh decrees, and M'chaper on one’s sins).
Some say that it is worth being M'vatel Torah and Tefila, in order to spend time appreciating the great Zechusim we are Zoche to, with our Torah, Avoda, and Gemilus Chasadim, Shviras HaMiddos, and Bitachon etc. Working on Simcha, and being Machshiv our Mitzvos takes time, and may appear to be causing Bittul Torah and Tefila etc. But it’s all worth it.
Such a person has a higher level of Simcha and Emuna, and he Shteigs way-over all his friends. He becomes much more real. וֹקְלֶח יֵרְשַׁא Fortunate is his lot! When we try to do Teshuva on the Sin'as Chinam and Ka'as and Kin'ah etc. that caused the Churban, we should mainly focus on the beauty of being a warm loving and caring father (Chodesh “Av”) and on the greatness of Ahron who was a Rodef Shalom and everyone loved him, and how glorious it is when Jews love each other and hug each other (and learn Torah together) like the K'ruvim. Then we’ll be ready for Elul, which means: יִל יִדוֹדְו יִדוֹדְל יִנֲא more and more positivism and love.
P.S. Although a person should avoid court cases in Chodesh Av (Shulchan Aruch), one who is stuck with a court date in Av can have Bitachon and will surely Davka be Matzliach, since Bitachon is higher than all Tevah & all Halachos. Rav Dovid Bleicher says a Baal Bitachon is: תוּכְלַמַל בָרוּקְמ a friend of the Boss, & gets special treatment, despite his shortcomings and sins. The Ramchal says that he’ll be pulled out of Gehinom, and the Bitachon he had in his lifetime will work for him even after he is Niftar.
