The fast concludes at 8:03pm (R' Tukaccinsky). Some wait until the time for Motzaei Shabbat at 8:14 PM.
One washes their hands (covering the entire hand with water) without a Brachah, and rinses one’s mouth as soon as possible after Maariv, and certainly before Kiddush Levanah or (Havdallah and) breaking the fast.
Havdallah is recited without Besamim and Havdallah candle. The one who recites Havdallah drinks the wine. [If one forgot to recite Havdallah, he should do so as soon as he remembers – up until sunset on Tuesday afternoon. Even though he ate prior to Havdallah, there is no need to repeat the Amidah again with Atah Chonantanu.]
A man who heard Havdallah should not recite it again for a woman. Therefore, one should not be yotze with the Havdallah at Shul when there are women at home waiting to hear Havdallah.
A woman may make Havdallah herself.
If the moon is visible, Kiddush Levanah is recited. Ideally, one should first change into leather shoes, rinse one’s face to freshen up, and taste something (after Havdallah), unless this will negate his participation in a Minyan.
The Beit Hamikdash was set ablaze on the afternoon of the 9th of Av, and burned through the 10th. Therefore, all restrictions of the Nine Days (including – but not limited to – consuming meat or wine, having a haircut, bathing, wearing freshly laundered clothing, or doing the laundry) extend until midday (12:45pm) of the 10th of Av.
