What Do I Work On First
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What Do I Work On First

Bilvavi | December 31, 2025

QUESTION

It is hard for me to feel “grounded”. I don’t feel centered in my body. I feel like I am unbounded. Sometimes all I feel are my eyes, as if all my energy is in my head. It’s possible that physical exercise would help me become more grounded, but I have very little time in my day and I have a lot to do, both when it comes to family and work, and I have very little free time. I very much want to make the most of my time, and focus on that which is eternal, and to work directly with my soul. I want to do this sensibly. The Rav has said many times that it’s important to improve gradually, in steps. But where do I begin??

Also, I thirstily drink up the Rav’s shiurim and sefarim, like a parched person in the desert who needs water, like a child in a candy store. I want to grow in all areas that the Rav talks about. Is there any order for me to go in? Does it make a difference which of the Rav’s sefarim or series I should begin with?

I very much appreciate that the Rav has taken of his precious time to read through my question. I am eagerly awaiting the Rav’s response. Thanks.

ANSWER

You can work on one topic at a time, along with reading any of the other sefarim.

For now, it is recommended that you begin by learning the “Focus” sefer, which is part of the “4 Elements” series, which has just been released in Hebrew [also available in English for download as Fixing Your Focus].

QUESTION

It is hard for me to feel “grounded”. I don’t feel centered in my body. I feel like I am unbounded. Sometimes all I feel are my eyes, as if all my energy is in my head. It’s possible that physical exercise would help me become more grounded, but I have very little time in my day and I have a lot to do, both when it comes to family and work, and I have very little free time. I very much want to make the most of my time, and focus on that which is eternal, and to work directly with my soul. I want to do this sensibly. The Rav has said many times that it’s important to improve gradually, in steps. But where do I begin??

Also, I thirstily drink up the Rav’s shiurim and sefarim, like a parched person in the desert who needs water, like a child in a candy store. I want to grow in all areas that the Rav talks about. Is there any order for me to go in? Does it make a difference which of the Rav’s sefarim or series I should begin with?

I very much appreciate that the Rav has taken of his precious time to read through my question. I am eagerly awaiting the Rav’s response. Thanks.

ANSWER

You can work on one topic at a time, along with reading any of the other sefarim.

For now, it is recommended that you begin by learning the “Focus” sefer, which is part of the “4 Elements” series, which has just been released in Hebrew [also available in English for download as Fixing Your Focus].

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