The Torah describes the Cohen Gadol as the most extra special person. Later it says: כִיַנֵזֶרַשֶמֶןַמִשְ ח תַאֱלֹק ַיוַע ל יוַַכאַיב he wears a crown (“Nezer”). RSRH Zatzal says that: נֵזֶרַ can mean two opposite things. By a regular Cohen who became Tamei, the Passuk says: וְיִנ זְרוַַּכבַב he should withdraw and refrain from eating Kodoshim, and by a Cohen Gadol, נֵזֶר means a crown. He's too high. The נֵזֶר can either mean a: זָר stranger, or having a crown.
Actually, we can suggest that any kind of withholding and restraint earns you a crown; you should be proud, since you didn't jump to do what you wanted to do, and you were a Gibbor. אֵיזֶהוַּגִבּוֹר,ַה כוֹבֵשַאֶתַיִצְרוֹ Who is a true Gibbor? One who holds himself back from acting on his desires. The real crown belongs only to the Cohen Gadol (who wears a: צִיץ Tzitz), and he is the only person who goes into the Kodesh HaKodoshim on Yom Kippur. What was special about him? He would sprinkle the blood of the Par (bull) and Sa’ir (goat) in the Kodesh HaKodoshim (one above and seven below).
But first, he would first enter Kodesh HaKodoshim and bring a special offering of Ketores (pouring it onto the: מ חְת ה shovel of burning hot coals). And every year before Yom Kippur, the Chachamim would make him promise that when he brings this Ketores, he will WAIT to burn the Ketores until after he enters the Kodesh HaKodoshim; unlike the Tzedukim, who are in a hurry, and empty out the Ketores onto the hot coals while still in the Heichal; before entering the Kodesh HaKodoshim. (Mishna).
We can suggest that the cardinal difference between the Chachamim and the Tzedukim was impatience.
A Baal Bitachon Has Patience and Doesn’t Expect to Get Rewarded Right Away
How did they become Tzedukim in the first place? Tzadok and Baysos were listening to a shiur from א נְטִיגְנוֹסַאִישַסוֹכוֹ Antignos Ish Socho, who said: א לַתִהְיוַּכ עֲב דִ יםַה מְש מְשִ יןַאֶתַַה ר בַע לַמְנ תַלְק בֵּלַפְר סַַאבותַאַג Your service of Hashem should not be with the intention of receiving reward. Upon hearing this, they promptly left Yiddishkeit and started their own religion (Tzedukim and Bay’susim). We can explain that they were impatient about Schar, and wanted it right away. After saying this Pshat on my own, I discovered that the Ramban (Sefer HaEmuna v’HaBitachon Ch. 1) explains this Mishna: כְַלוֹמ ַר,ַַכְַשֶַתְַש ַמְַשוַַּאוֹתוַַֹא ַלַיְַהִַיַַבִַּטְַחוֹנְַכֶַםַבּוַַֹלְַק ַבֵַּלַאֶַתַה ַשְַכ ַרַַמִ יַ ד Don’t serve Hashem with expectations of getting rewarded right away.
We see that Antignos was just warning not to be impatient about Schar. He wasn't saying that you shouldn't expect Schar altogether. This is the greatness of the Cohen Gadol. He waits, and he has patience before going to the Kodesh HaKodoshim (The Kodesh HaKodoshim is compared to Gan Eden). When you restrain yourself about anything, you should feel like you're a king with a crown.
Then it will be easier, and you'll feel good about yourself; not like a person who is in pain because he can't have what he wants. R’ Zundel of Salant said: כ לַע כ ב הַלְטוֹב ה Any type of being held back, and needing to wait, is only L'tovah. So the next time you are held up in traffic, or you are working on Bitachon for a serious need and nothing is happening... feel like you are earning a crown.
Not only is it: כ לַמ איַדְ ע בֵידַר חְמ נ אַלְט בַע בֵידַ surely for the best, but you should feel that you deserve a crown for your patience. No more worries about all that physical pain, Rachmana Litzlan, or waiting for Shiduchim or much needed Parnasa or successful relationships. Don't be a “Tz’eduki” who must have immediate gratification. Be proud of your needing to wait, that Hashem wants you to have.
Menucha & Patience Will Help You Get a Sooner & Greater Yeshua
People get bigger Yeshuos and quicker Yeshuos when they combine Menucha with Bitachon. In fact, Shaar HaK'niya is very close to Bitachon, since it calms you down and you aren't such a big shot who must have immediate results, or else you're angry at Hashem, Chas V'shalom. Remember how Avraham Avinu had to wait 100 years for Yitzchok.
Those who work on being calmer, and they take deep breaths and wait, live longer and healthier, with Hashem’s help. This is what the Chovos Halvavos refers to as: מְַנוּח ַתַנֶַפֶַשַַה ַבּוֹטֵַח ַ the tranquility of the Baal Bitachon. So many Chata’im (sins) can be traced to lack of patience (like Chet HaEigel etc.). All the problems of our lives are tests in patience. Hashem is: אֶרֶךְַא פ יִםַ One who does not lose patience if He has to wait a long time for the realization of His hopes and desires (RSRH in Parshas B'shalach 15:8) and He wants us also to be like Him.
Amnon, the oldest son of Dovid forced his half-sister to have relations with him, and this caused a horrific scandal that gave Dovid tremendous Tza'ar. This was a punishment for Dovid, since he was Nichshal with Bas Sheva. There is a striking similarity between these two stories.
Tamar begged Amnon to wait, and to tell Dovid that he wants to have a legal marriage with her. Dovid would definitely allow it, since Tamar was the daughter of a Y’fas To’ar, and was permitted to Amnon. But Amnon didn't listen to her. He was impatient, and he wanted her immediately.
Chazal say that Bas Sheva was meant to be the wife of Dovid ever since: שֵַשֶַתַיְַמֵַיַַבְַּרֵַאשִַית the creation of the world. At the moment that Dovid first saw her, she was married to Uriyah, and was forbidden to Dovid. We can suggest that Dovid’s sin with Bas Sheva was exactly similar to Amnon and Tamar. Both didn't wait. If Bas Sheva was meant for Dovid since: שֵַשֶַתַ יְַמֵַיַבְַּרֵַאשִַיתַ creation, then Uriyah would have died or gotten killed, or he would divorce her so Dovid could marry Bas Sheva who was originally meant for him.
The lesson is: Don't be impatient! The Seforim HaKedoshim say that a Tzaddik has the same pleasure as the Rasha, except that he gets it in a legal way. A Tzaddik has an easier life in general, since if he has a difficult Olam HaZeh, he is still happy since he knows that in the next world the Baal Yissurim always comes out ahead.
The Midda of Bitachon is actually an exercise in patience. You wait and wait and wait until you get what you want. Hashem is always watching our patience level; the more patience, the more he gets indescribable reward. So no more complaining when you feel that your Bitachon isn't working fast enough.
