It is said that a king had an only son, and the king wanted to teach his son many wisdoms so that he would be able to succeed him in the future. Therefore, the king gave his son into the hands of a sage who would teach his son all the wisdom and tricks of the kingdom. For several years, the sage taught the king's son, and at the end of his studies, he sent him to his father to test him. The king tested his son. He found him complete in all wisdom and rejoiced with great joy. The king commanded that one hundred thousand gold coins be given to the sage from the treasury and a badge of honor. The wise man said to the king, "There is one more thing that I need to teach your son, and only one hour is enough for that." The king sent his son to the sage's house, the sage closed the door, grabbed the king's son and beat him fifty times on his legs until he began to bleed. The son cried out, but there was no savior for him. The sage then placed the king's son in a wagon and sent him to his father.
When the son came to his father, the king, the king saw his son screaming and moaning, and blood dripping from his leg. The son told his father everything that had happened. The king was filled with anger and decreed that the sage should be hanged, but he ordered that before the sentence was carried out, the sage should be brought before him to explain to him the meaning of the matter. When the sage was brought before the king, the king said to him: "I have already decreed that you should be hanged, just tell me what this foolishness you have done to harm my son in this way? You lost the reward and honor you would have received in your own hands." The sage replied: "I am faithful in my work, you have given me your son so that they may learn the tricks of the kingdom, and since a king in judgment will establish a land, and every person who does evil will bring his judgment before him. However, the punishment must be according to the degree of the sin, and sometimes a person who stole a hundred dinars will be brought before him and he will be sentenced to strike him with a thousand plagues, because the king has never been stung by a flea because of his protection, and therefore he does not know how much the pain of the plagues is, and it is possible that if he is beaten 300 times, he will die, but since the king decreed a thousand plagues, the king's word should not be answered. And they beat him and he died a strange death for stealing a hundred dinars, and there is an injustice here in the trial... Therefore, I have beaten your son to the extent that he can endure, so that he can estimate the extent of the pain of the plagues, and then he will know how to sentence the appropriate punishment according to the sin..." When the king heard the words of the sage, he was very happy with his words and added more gifts to him for what he had given him before...
Moral of the story: We do not always know what is going on in the heart of the other, what his mental state is, and what one word has influenced him. Sometimes we judge people without trying to be in their place, in their situation, in their life. If we were only given the opportunity to feel a little of their grief, to be in their place, we would judge them in a more positive and considerate way. There is no person who can be in the place of the other, with all his problems and distresses, our job is to try to step into his shoes before we judge him, talk about him and throw our anger at him... Before you become a judge, you will be the judge, perhaps then you will be able to understand the other, if only slightly, and change the assessment that you evaluated him a minute before...
