Every human screams day and night: “Please respect me! Consider me important. Don’t belittle me in your mind.” They may not vocalize these words, but secretly and even subconsciously this is the #1 of their entire existence. Men and woman, old and young, always crave Kavod.
Some are loud types, and some are more reserved. Some are even smart enough to act as if they don’t need recognition. But they are all the same. “Even if I’m not so perfect, or capable, frum, or Geshmak; nevertheless, still try to love me and understand me!” The reason for so much Tzaros, wars, and disease; is because people don’t Chap the importance of Kavod HaB’riyos.
The Talmidei Rabbi Akiva were all Niftar because they did not give the proper Kavod to each other. In Novardok and in Slabodka, all they talked about these days was Ayin Tova! “Please see my good side! I beg you! Have Rachmanus!”
And on that long list of people that you need to daven that Hashem should help you respect with your whole heart, don’t forget to include yourself. Hashem purposely makes certain people in your life appear weird, arrogant, or very different than you; like Chassidim and Misnagedim, to test you! [And give you Schar].
Also, the Treife streets are there to give you loads of Schar, when you just try to control yourself.
to constantly praise others and appreciate them. The biggest Zchus is to see good in a person we dislike. The Chofetz Chaim said our entire Olam HaBah depends on this. If we will see good in others and judge them L’kaf Zechus, Hashem will judge us L’kaf Zechus. But if we are critical of others, the: םִיַמָשׁ ןיִד Heavenly tribunal will be harsh on us, Chas V’shalom.
