It is well known that an unhappy person can invite illness to his body, Chas V'shalom, and the Gr"a says on the Passuk: רוּחַ אִיש יְכַלְכֵל מַחֲלֵהוּ משלי יח יד that being happy and satisfied can actually cure even physical ailments, and surely mental disturbances. Now we understand why the Haggadah Shel Pesach is so extreme on being satisfied. אִלוּ קֵרְ בָּנוּ לִפְנֵי הַר סִינַי, וְלֹא נָּתַן לָּנוּ אֶת הַתּוֹרָּה דַיֵינוּ If we would have been brought before Har Sinai, even if He didn’t give us the Torah, Dayeinu, it would have been enough, and: אִלוּ הֶאֱכִילָּנוּ אֶת הַמָּן, וְלֹא נָּתַן לָּנוּ אֶת הַשַבָּת דַיֵינוּ If He would have fed us the Mon, but not have given us the gift of Shabbos, Dayeinu, it would have been enough. This is a lesson, that even when the most precious Inyanei Ruchaniyus are missing, you still have to say: “I have enough!” (since I am trying to move on and to improve). It’s enough for me that I’m the type of person that (has so much) and wants to improve. I am happy to be the frustrated type of Oved Hashem.
As if you actually don’t need more. And: קֵרְ בָּנוּ לִפְנֵי הַר סִינַי standing before Har Sinai is a midpoint where you’re aiming for the greatest and holiest: תַּ כְ לִ ית הַ בְ רִ יאָּ ה (purpose of creation) itself, and you still say: דַיֵינוּ Dayeinu, it would have been enough. It’s enough without it! You agree to all those ½ way situations, and you say: דַיֵינוּ Dayeinu, it is enough. You wanted a Shidduch which is the biggest Mitzva, and it didn’t work out. You still say: דַיֵינוּ Dayeinu, it is enough, because you are happy that at least they are Redding you something, or at least you are trying to get married.
Here’s an older girl looking for a Shidduch for years and going nowhere. She should be happy that she wants a Ben-Torah and דַּיֵינוּ Dayeinu, it is enough! Or that there is some activity going on, although the boys are saying: “No”. What’s wrong with saying: “At least I’m alive, and I have good Retzonos.” This is exactly what happened to the Alter of Novardok Zatzal, who felt bad that all his dreams weren’t coming true and he failed everywhere.
