A couple came over to me two months ago, and told me that they are having total stress since their 24-year-old son cannot get a Shidduch; nothing seems to work. I told them to convert all that negative “worry” energy into positivism. They would have a daily 5-minute Seder with each other.
In these 5 minutes, they would tell a Lebedik imaginary story about how their son suddenly found a “Glick” (fantastic) Shidduch. They laughed and joked about which hall the Chasuna would be, what type of invitations, and which guests to invite. They discussed all the Geshmake details; the beautiful Mitzva Tantz, etc.
After four weeks, things suddenly started moving. And two months after they started their Seder, their son had a Mazal Tov. I’ve done this many, many, times, and it’s magic. A broken-hearted parent called me about a son who spends all day doing “unmentionable” things. This parent called me many times, and couldn’t stop crying.
I advised keeping away from the child, and to laugh and joke (between yourself and Hashem) about what a real Tzaddik this boy is, with all the details. In two weeks, the boy became much more “smiley” and happy. He started going back to Yeshiva, and he made a major turnaround, full of Torah and Yiras Shamayim.
