The Ohr Hachaim explains this possuk as describing a person who does not wish to learn Torah.
Every one of us is obligated to learn Torah, setting aside time from his day to delve into the Torah. He must do so as much as he can, for as long as he can. The yetzer hara attempts to prevent a person from doing so, and he holds him back from doing as much as he can. He suffices with the little he has done and does not attach himself fully to the Torah. His answer to himself is that his days are short and he needs to focus on bringing sustenance to their homes and supporting their families. Such people don’t believe that the Torah can bring a person his sustenance. They are basically disrespecting the Torah, considering it ineffective and unimportant.
This is alluded to in the Torah by the words כִּי יִּקַּח אִּישׁ אִּשָּׁה – when a man shall take a woman. The Torah calls itself (Devarim 33:4) תּוֹרָה צִוָה לָנו מֹשֶׁה מוֹרָשָה קְהִלַּת יַּעֲקֹב – Moshe commanded us a law, an inheritance for the assembly of Yaakov. Chazal tell us that מוֹרָשָה should be read as מְ אוֹרָ סָ ה – betrothed. The Torah is betrothed to Klal Yisroel, like a wife.
This person took a wife, meaning he drew close to the Torah. He also goes to her, which means that the light of Torah has shone on him at Har Sinai, and he received the luchos – the tablets of the law. ושְנֵאָהּ – and he shall hate her. He does not wish to stay with her, he does not wish to give her the time of the day. A person is obligated to give his wife עונה, meaning regular conjugal visits, where they unite as one, and when a person is attached to the Torah, he is supposed to have regular times to visit the Torah and join together as one, where he places his sole focus on learning and understanding Torah. This person hates the Torah, and does not wish to give these visits to his wife.
When he is reproved by someone, asked why he does not wish to stick with his wife, his answer is וְשָם לָהּ עֲלִילֹת דְבָרִ ים וְהוֹצִא עָלֶׁיהָ שֵם רָע - accuses her of shameful things, and brings up an evil name on her. Instead of admitting that his yetzer hara has overwhelmed him and he is too lazy to learn Torah, he claims that the Torah does not support or sustain him, and he needs to focus on that. When he learns, he loses out on business opportunities and becomes poorer. He announces that learning causes problems and does not help him. He refuses to see how the merits of learning assist his life. He also notices the successes of those who do not spend too much time learning and is jealous of him. He sees how learning brings no benefit, and not learning brings extra time to make more money. He says אֶׁת הָאִשָה הַּזֹאת לָקַּחְתִּי וָאֶׁקְרַּב אֵלֶׁיהָ וְלֹא מָצָאתִי לָהּ בְתולִים – I took this woman and drew near to her and did not find her to have the strength and virility that I was looking for, he does not see the importance of learning Torah.
Nowadays, we sadly hear this complaint many times. Not only to prevent people from learning, but even when they meet other people learning, they feel and express this antipathy toward the person who is learning. They refuse to appreciate the value that Torah learners bring to society, and attempt to cut their numbers and limit their ability to learn. They fail to recognize how much they are benefitting from the learning of those who have dedicated their lives to Torah. In these times of danger, we are doubly responsible to protect those that learn Torah and assist them with whatever we can.
