People Can Spend A Lifetime with Dimyonos And All Kinds of Pain That Doesn’t Really Exist

How can they call Mitzrayim: אֶרֶץ זָבַת חָלָב ּודְבַש a land flowing with milk and honey? This is as ludicrous as can be. We see how blind a person can be to the truth when he looks for Kavod and he doesn’t learn Mussar. Later on, Dassan and Aviram said: הַעֵינֵי הָאֲנָשִים הָהֵם תְנַקֵר (16:13) even if you will poke out their eyes [we will not come]. They were referring to Moshe making them blind. But it was really their own Negi'a which causes blindness, as it says: כִי הַשֹחַד יְעַּוֵר עֵינֵי חֲכָמִים (Shoftim 16:19) bribery blinds the eyes of the Chachomim.

Chazal say: כֹל הַּפֹוסֵל בְמּומֹו ּפֹוסֵל When you criticize others, you are just advertising your own problems. When a person accuses another person for hurting him, it may actually be a clear sign that the person is doing just-that to himself! People who don’t learn Mussar properly can spend a lifetime of Dimyonos and all kinds of pain that doesn’t really exist!

Dovid HaMelech was: נְעִים זְמִרֹות יִשְרָאֵל (Shmuel II 23:1) the sweet singer of Israel, and he was one of the happiest people who ever lived. Although he called himself a Chasid, which means an unusual Tzaddik and he felt good about himself, yet he also said: וְחַטָאתִי נֶגְדִי תָמִיד (Tehillim 51:5) my sin is before me always; i.e. he was always aware of his weaknesses. So he never blamed others, and as a result he loved everyone. So no more complaints against my “spouse” or “children” or “in-laws” or “parents” or “neighbors” or “friends” who can be quite hurtful at times. It’s all me!