R’ Gershon Liebman Zatzal was getting loads of unjustified public Bizyonos and unending complaints against him; all by an important and respectable person. R' Gershon smiled & told me: “All I have to do is improve myself”. So don’t forget to keep saying: “It’s all me”. And make sure to smile while you’re saying it!
A: לוֹדָג לָלְכּ general principle: When you improve, the whole world around you improve. The expert therapists say that if one family member changes L’tovah, the entire family gets affected and improves. So stop focusing on all those people in your life who are hurting you [unless there is a Tachlis].
The Chovos Halvavos in Shaar HaBitachon says that when you realize that all those people who hurt you are Shluchim messengers from Shamayim and you suspect your own sins to be at fault, then you Davka do good to those same people and are Dan them L'kaf Zechus and are Mochel. And Chazal say that: וֹלוּכּ םָלוֹעָה לָכְל ןיִלֲחוֹמ הָבוּשְׁתּ הָשָׂﬠֶשׁ דיִחָייומא ב ופ even if just ONE person does Teshuva, the entire world is forgiven.
