This is what Mussar and loads of Tefila can do for you. You don’t like learning Mussar? It’s your problem. You are missing out on a life of truth and sweetness and physical health, in this world and the next. When I make a beautiful speech, and then someone tells me that my friend made a much better speech, I’m overjoyed! Now I can become an Ahron! A: ל בֹש ש מ חֹב ג דוּל תֹֹ א ח יו heart that rejoices with his brother’s greatness!
R' Gershon Liebman