The stupidity of Kin'ah, Ta'ava, and Kavod; it’s all Dimyon and “denial” of the beautiful truth of Torah and Mitzvos (and the incredible enjoyment of a blatt Gemara!). In Novardok, they made a Birur HaMiddos to examine and see through all your fake pains. For example, your holy aggravation about your spiritual shortcoming, or about your wife and/or kids not being frum and/or nice enough; it’s all silly Redifas HaKavod. Don’t be so sure that you are L'shem Shamayim when killing yourself over your petty shortcomings.
You forget that: תֶא ןֵוַּכְיֶּשׁ דַבְלִבוּ ,טיִﬠְמַמַּה דָחֶאְו הֶבְּרַמַּה דָחֶאוֹבִּל םִיָמָשַּׁל משנה סוף מנחות accomplishment is irrelevant; the main thing is that you tried your best L'shem Shamayim, and you forget: רוֹמְגִל הָכאָלְמַּה ˃יֶלָﬠ אֹל אבות ב טז You are not responsible to get it all done, and all you need to do is just: וֹדָיֶשׁ םוֹקָמ דַﬠתַﬠַגַמ as best you can. And if you’re still kvetching despite all your Tefilos and your efforts, then you have a piece of “Yevoni” and: יִדָי םֶצֹעְו יִחֹכּ (thinking you are in control) inside you. During Chanukah, we need to fight all these fake aggravations.
Your silly, unending criticism, on yourself and on others. See through your problem! Leave him alone! He’s just a human who always makes mistakes (and so do you!). Relax and enjoy life! As long as you try. We live in darkness or trying to become what we weren’t created to become. Stop imitating others!
When you have a problem and a serious issue, Chas V’shalom, it’s plenty dark. And when you learn Shaar HaBitachon and you say it’s Min HaShamayim and it’s really good, then you shed light on the situation. The worst darkness of our Dor is when everyone believes in: ַחוּר לַפְשׁ יֵוֱה דֹאְמ דֹאְמ being a big Anav, and barely acknowledges: דָחֶאְו דָחֶא לָכּבָיַּח םָלוֹעָה אָרְבִנ יִליִבְשִׁבּ רַמוֹל סנהדרין לז א their obligation to say: “the entire universe was created just for me.
