Regarding this story, Rabbi Yisrael Salanter would often say that it is yet another example of why it is crucial to study and teach the teachings of mussar (ethical refinement). Without engaging in the study of personal development and character improvement, one does not even realize the finer points of obligations bein adam le-chaveiro (between man and his fellow).
This story exemplifies such an instance: the wealthy host had never even considered how much the maid suffered from the late Shabbos meal. One who studies mussar, however, works on refining every aspect of their character, becoming sensitive to the needs of others.
Similarly, I once heard from my esteemed father, Rabbi Levi HaKohen Rabinovitch zt”l, author of Ma’adanei HaShulchan (who passed away on 2 Adar 5775), that the great Chafetz Chaim zt”l once hosted guests for a Shabbos meal. Upon entering his home, he immediately made Kiddush so that his hungry guests could begin eating immediately. Only afterward, during the meal, did he recite Shalom Aleichem, Ribon HaOlamim, and Eishet Chayil.
The Chafetz Chaim explained his practice: “The angels can wait a little, but hungry guests find it difficult to wait.”
A wise person takes these lessons to heart—always thinking about and considering the needs, well-being, and joy of their fellow Jews, ensuring blessings and kindness for them.
