How Do I React When Someone Is Exposing Me to Forbidden Things, While at The Same Time They Are Doing Me A Favor
Question: Shalom V’kavod HaRav Mandel Shlita
My husband was out of the city for a bi-annual appointment for his work. To get home can take about 2-3 hours. But this time, he got a ride to Jerusalem with a non-religious man. This ride saved him about 1-2 hours of time. On the ride home, the man had secular radio on, with Kol-Isha playing. There happened to be another religious man in the car also; both my husband and this other religious man didn't say anything. But the question was, should he have? He is receiving a gift of the ride home, and so he wasn't sure if that should be a reason to bother the driver. And he thought maybe there was a Heter for the Kol-Isha for the radio. What would be the best thing to do in this type of situation?
Thank you for all the wonderful shiurim. Please continue to sing. It is wonderful
Answer: Now look. He should have gotten out of the car. He should have told him in a polite way what a great guy he is, but we are not allowed to listen to that. Very possibly, the guy would have acquiesced. He would have said: "Oh, indeed!" Farkert (to the contrary), he would have respected him for it.
He's making a mistake of Shiflus (lowliness). And they shouldn't be listening to that stuff on the radio. You're not allowed to do it. You have to get out of the car. Get out of that ride. No good. I don't approve of the whole business. You should have told him nicely, and gotten lost. Don't be so good-hearted. What's the Heter?
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