A certain person was always taking R’ Zundel of Salant’s shtender, and never putting it back. R’ Zundel asked him politely to please return it, since it was hard for him to carry it. This person started screaming at R’ Zundel for daring to make such a request! Despite the fact he was dead wrong, Reb Zundel asked him for M’chila. The person refused to be Mochel him, until Reb Zundel got up in front of the whole Bais Medrash and begged him with tears in his eyes.
R’ Zundel did not get involved in who’s right and who’s wrong. His prime objective in life was to be one hundred percent pure in Bain Adam La’chaveiro and Anava. This is why indeed he became R’ Zundel HaTzaddik.
Of course, this is a high Madrega. But we can learn from here that working on your Ka’as or Sin'ah problem, is much more important than who’s right and who’s wrong.
People waste their lives and energy with debates and arguments that almost never have any Tachlis whatsoever. The only Tachlis is their love for being right, which really is their desire for illusionary Kavod and silly Ga’ava. When you keep quiet or give in, you are exercising Savlanus and Anava, and you grow tremendously.
The next time you have a confrontation, instead of fighting, go to the real enemy, your Yetzer Hara, and treat yourself to a Mussar Sefer on Ka’as, Ga’ava, or Bitachon.
