We find Pinchos surrounded by Pesukim that portray him as a kind person; first, his lineage is traced to Ahron who symbolizes peace (Chazal call Ahron a shtick (piece of) Chesed and goodness. And now he has: םוֹלָשׁ תיִרְבּ Bris Shalom.
Despite the special praises and rewards that the Torah gives Pinchos for being a Kano'i, we also get a message that a Kano'i isn't what every hotheaded far’fumter person is; he's full of goodness despite his Kana’us. Chazal say that he was only a Kano'i because he didn't see the lions of Klal Yisroel (Shevet Yehuda & Dan) doing anything.
Novardokers told me that Kana’us is: ָי ָק ִמ ר ָכּּ וֹה ל ן more valuable than anything, and should be encouraged, but only together with lots of appropriate Mussar, so you don't turn into an animal, Chas V'shalom. Pinchos (the Kano'i) who is Eliyahu HaNavi remains the: ַמ ְל ָא˂ ַה ְבּ ִר תי Malach that comes to a Bris, and always sees good in the Yidden, and he doesn't appear to people who have Hakpados.
When people don't have any depth and try to understand each other, it can lead to the worst: ַא ְכ ָז ִריוּת cruelty! Like Eisav who only sees the "red stuff" but he doesn't even know what he's eating! My Uncle R' Manis Mandel Zatzal would always defend students who didn't listen.
He insisted that they should have their ears checked, since they may have a physical problem. But foolish parents and teachers don't think; they just get agitated and scream: "Can't you hear me!" Husbands and wives, friends and neighbors, and especially different sects and Shitos; there are tons of misunderstandings, and as a result, Sin’as Chinam is rampant!
When we see a Yid who isn't quite on our level, we should be motivated to go all-out to understand him.
