Ayin Tova Is Malchus Which Is the Opposite of Being Critical

This is exactly Malchus; Ayin Tova, and exactly the opposite Malchus of is being a critical person. I've seen the worst family relationships which cause untold misery and hatred for one reason; someone is critical! And often he or she doesn't even realize how he or she is hurting family members and makes them feel trapped in a "concentration" camp!

Being critical means being downright cruel, and being self-critical can be just as dangerous and worse, Chas V'shalom. Who wants to live a life of constant harassing by self and/or others saying "You're no good for this reason, or that reason”. Do you want to wake up in the morning to all this? Or you'd rather sleep away your life. The more you call your boy “dysfunctional” who never does anything, the more he continues to do that.

I have another sure-way to create an unmotivated child. If he has a sibling who is a bigger Metzuyan and/or more Geshmak or cute, and you keep focusing on the cutie and ignoring the dysfunctional. Often, parents don't chap what they're doing. They should do just the opposite, and constantly give attention and praise and find all kinds of goodness Davka in the child without Chen, etc.