So many of us suffer because we cannot achieve what we strive for. The Medrash says that Moshe was shown many: וֹא ָצרוֹ ת treasures of Olam HaBah, and then he was shown an: אוֹ ָצר ָג וֹד ל great treasure of Schar for those who wanted to do certain Mitzvos and weren’t able to. If you suffer from lack of Hasmada, Torah, Kedusha, Middos Tovos, Nachas, Bitachon, Bain Adam La'chaveiro, no Savlanus, Kin'ah, Ta'ava, and Kavod; you should cheer up. It is possible that in Shamayim you are Davka the example of success in the very area that you feel you are lacking! םַﬠֹנ יֵכְרַד ָהיֶכָרְדּ זי ג ילשמ The ways of the Torah are pleasant, and: יֵﬠָבּ אָבּיִל אָנָמְחַר Hashem wants our intentions.
How precious are those frustrated frum Jews who wish they could improve themselves. Without a question, the entire world stands on them; but they have a hard job to respect themselves properly. And if you don’t repeat these concepts regularly, it can go into one ear and come out the very same ear... and you remain as depressed as ever.
This is the greatness of having a regular Mussar Seder, i.e., to Chazzer (repeat) those Yesodos that give you Chizuk. I heard in the name of R' Ahron of Karlin Zatzal that if a Bachur manages to go home from the Bais Medrash without looking once at what’s Assur to look at, and he isn’t dancing loads for this accomplishment, that is the reason why people do not become great.
And “not” succeeding can be even more Chashuv in Shamayim (as long as you keep trying and struggling) since Chazal say: םַﬠַפּ בוֹט רַﬠַצְבּ אֹלֶֹש הָאֵמִמ רַﬠַצְבּ תַחַא It’s worth way more when it’s harder. You need to Chazzer (repeat) daily: אָרְגַא אָרֲﬠַצ םוּפְל בכ ה תובא “The harder it is, the more Schar” at least 10-20 times, and you’ll become a happy person. Also: היֵרְטַפּ אָנָמְחַר סֵנוֹא ב חכ ק"ב “If it’s beyond your control, it’s not your responsibility” 10-20 times, and be Dan yourself L'kaf Zechus 10-20 times as needed. Of course, make sure you have a Rebbe’s guidance.
