Eitzos Hobben Mir Bei Vemmen Tzu Freggen
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Eitzos Hobben Mir Bei Vemmen Tzu Freggen

Cyber Farbrengens | June 27, 2025

Dear Alumni Sheyichyu!
Sholom U’Brocho!

Mazel tov to Sholom Guttleizer on the occasion of his engagement. May he use out this special period of yokor mikol yokor to its’ utmost! Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Yisrolik Langsam on the birth of their son. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Ephrayim Oster on the birth of their son. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Shlomo Barber on the birth of their daughter. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Meir Chaim Brikman on the birth of their daughter. A special Mazel tov to Rabbi Mendel hakohen Aronow and family on the birth of the new grandson and granddaughter, may he experience the words of Chazal נולד בן זכר נתרפאה כל המשפחה, and he should have a refuah shleima and arichus yomim veshonim tovos in good health. May they bring them up lTOveCHuMAA”T mitoch harchovo, and to be true chayolim! (If anyone is aware of any mazeltov’s that I omitted please let me know).

Rabbi Avrohom Aaron Price was an accomplished talmid chochom, a gaon and an author of numerous seforim, who was a leading Rov in Toronto for many years. [In Igros kodesh chelek yud aleph there is a letter of the Rebbe to him, in which he also writes ha’oros on his seforim].

[He was originally a Poylishe, who emigrated to Toronto in 1937, and had a deep respect for the Rebbe, as illustrated in the following anecdote: Once there was an issue with a husband who refused to give his wife a get. Rabbi Price was one of the leading Rabbonim involved. One of the other Rabbonim suggested a certain way of disqualifying the kidushin and, thus, freeing the woman. Rabbi Price rejected that suggestion, and countered it with his own suggestion – “Write to the Lubavitcher Rebbe”, he countered, “and ask him to free her with the (only) other means available. If R’ Akiva Eiger was able to do it, then we can be certain that the Lubavitcher Rebbe is able to as well”].

Once the Rashag was in Toronto on a fundraising trip. The Rashag’s method of fundraising was that he wouldn’t travel around to people. Instead, he would stay in his (very high class) hotel, and would make appointments for people to come there to see him. Any anash who were able would also bring philanthropists and donors to see him.

During his stay, Rabbi Price came to the hotel to meet with him. During their conversation, Rabbi Price (who also had (if I’m not mistaken) an acute business sense, and was a wealthy man in his own right) told the Rashag that it was not fitting for him to have to travel around from place to place to solicit funds. Instead, he suggested a way with which the Yeshiva could become self-sufficient. “The Yeshiva should purchase a chain of theatres”, he suggested, “and it will be able to support itself with the revenue”.

The Rashag retorted: “Eitzos hobben mir bei vemmen tzu freggen! Efsher kent ihr brengen mir a por balei batim?” [For advice, we have whom to consult with! What is needed from you is to set up meetings for me with some wealthy donors].

This helps resolve a puzzling contradiction in our Parsha: A few maamorei Chazal seem to indicate that at the time that the meraglim were sent they were still innocent (as Rashi brings on the words כולם אנשים that באותה שעה כשרים היו - that they were still righteous at the time that they were sent, and as can be concluded from the very fact that Moshe agreed to send them).

But still other maamorei Chazal seem to indicate the opposite (such the interpretation of Chazal מה ביאתן בעצה רעה אף הליכתן בעצה רעה, and as we would seem to derive from the fact that Moshe saw a need, before they even left, to daven for Yehoshua קה יושיעך מעצת מרגלים).

The Rebbe explains that, certainly, at the time of their being sent, they had no evil schemes in mind. They did not dream, at that time, of the terrible betrayal that they would later carry out. What they were, however, guilty of, and the way in which they were, already, deviating ever so slightly from their mission, was in the fact that they were preparing to offer “eitzos”.

This is what Chazal mean by saying that they were going ב עצה רעה, what was bad, what was wrong, was the mere fact that they saw their position as one of offering advice. For in fact (as the Rashag said to Rabbi Price) they were not needed for their ideas and strategies. For eitzos, we had who to turn to; - Moshe Rabbenu, who conveyed the word of Hashem directly. Their mission was, rather, exclusively fact-finding. They were to bring back information, not to interpret it or to draw conclusions from it.

So, although this in itself was not sinful, it was enough cause for Moshe to daven that Yehoshua avoid even that subtle deviation. For, when you are called upon to produce facts, to give over the information as it is, then mixing your ideas and perspective is עצה רעה, it is not purely good. In fact, it was this very subtle deviation from the narrow definition of their mission that ultimately became the cause of their going astray in such a drastic and unexpected manner, with the subsequent tragic results.

We are all meraglim. We are here on the world as foreign agents, to conquer, subjugate and transform. We have very clear instructions and directives, regarding what exactly we are meant to achieve, what results we are seeking. But we are not needed for our analysis and strategic input regarding what will or won’t work. While we are supposed to use our intellect to figure out how to best fulfill our directives, we are not needed to find new strategies for achieving the end results. In fact, engaging in offering “eitzos” will ultimately lead to “eitzoh ro’oh”, - to negative and inappropriate conclusions.

A certain well known Jewish celebrity, a singer and musician, was once in yechidus. There, he complained to the Rebbe (about the halachik restrictions regarding the manner he conducts his concerts), saying “When I make a concert that is held according to the strict interpretation of halacha, with separate seating etc., I will attract a very small crowd. But when I make the concert with a bit more flexibility, the attendance increases tenfold, and I am able to influence so many more Jews in Torah and Mitzvos”.

The Rebbe, however, rejected his position, and wouldn’t condone his behavior.

This particular celebrity did, in fact, have numerous baalei teshuva to his credit, many who were, in fact, influenced by his concerts. Rationally, his argument seems to make a lot of sense. After all, he was doing G-d’s work, bringing Jews closer to Him. Doesn’t it make sense that he should be looking for the most effective way to do this? Shouldn’t the criteria be what will bring about the best results?

But, of course, he was wrong. Just as the meraglim were wrong. If it were up to him to strategize, to figure out the best way to achieve the final goal, that would be another thing. But, in fact, we are mere soldiers. We have to use our intellect to figure how to best carry out our orders. It is up to our generals, our commander, to figure out how to win the war.

And, while in that case, it is easier to see where he went wrong, since he strayed away from halacha, the error can be in many forms, that are often more subtle:

A bochur once wrote a letter to the Rebbe, in which he described his daily schedule. This bochur had discovered the tremendous benefit of learning Torah during the night-time hours, when there are no distractions and when it is easier to accomplish more in learning (as Chazal say לא איברי לילה אלא לגירסא). Thus – he wrote to the Rebbe – he began a schedule of learning many hours throughout the night, and making up for it by sleeping more hours during the day.

This schedule met with great success for him, and he managed to complete a number of mesechtos, and accomplish much in his learning. He concluded by writing to the Rebbe that he intends to continue in his successful learning arrangement, to go further in this “derech” that he had found for himself.

The response of the Rebbe was one word: Where the bochur wrote how he intends to continue following this derech, the Rebbe made an arrow to the side of the page, and wrote "לתהום"! [Implying that this path would lead him to great depths, to fall, rather than to great heights].

Once again, logically, the bochur seemed to have a good plan. This approach, particularly, seemed to be bringing him the intended results. But, still, he was (as we can see from the Rebbs’s response) very wrong. It was not his job to strategize, to figure out how to finish numerous mesechtos, as much as it was his responsibility to know what he is meant to do, which is to be actively involved in learning Torah within a designated structure.

To be sure, it is often a fine line. Because we are supposed to use our own understanding to figure out the best way to carry out Hashem’s directives. We have to strategize, to figure how to overcome the challenges that come up in our way, and how to avoid unnecessary difficulties. [Especially now, as the summer begins, and many bochurim are leaving the structure and environment of Yeshiva to engage in various types of shlichus, it is crucial that everyone have a strategy and a game plan for how to avoid the various yetzer hora’s – that are especially prevalent in the summer months – in matters of sur meira, and how to maximize their usage of the time in continuing to grow in Torah and davening, in areas of aseh tov].

But when crossing a certain line, we change from figuring out how to perform our shlichus, to carry out our instructions meticulously, to figuring a better way to reach the final goal, which is the beginning of “eitzah ro’oh”.

And there are countless examples of this. How many times do we hear bochurim (or young yungerleit) insisting that it can’t be that the limitation of four l’chayim’s applies to them because “I know myself, and I know that a mere 4 l’chayims will have no effect on me at all, and, therefore, not achieve the goal”.

But, wait! Who told you the goal is to have an “effect” on you, or what that effect is? Who told you to find ways to reach the goal? There is a directive from the Rebbe to hold a chassidishe farbrengen and to say l’chayim, so you participate in a farbrengen and say l’chayim, strictly according to your instructions. It is not your job to seek eitzos, to find better ways to achieve the results, only to be meticulous in carrying out the directives themselves.

Of course, this is a challenge. Because the objective of a farbrengen seems to be to address our feelings, our inspiration and excitement, the point of saying l’chayim seems to be to somehow awaken us and jolt us, so it seems logical that we should be focusing on how the farbrengen and the l’chayim would be most effective.

This was precisely the challenge of the meraglim as well. After all, the objective of meraglim, too, is to figure out, to use intellect to determine the best way the conquer the land. And yet, when they crossed the line from figuring out what their instructions were to applying their own ideas and eitzos, that was the beginning of their downfall.

It is Shabbos mevorchim Tamuz, and every single chosid is looking for what is appropriate to do and to undertake to prepare for the יום הגדול והנורא of Gimmel Tamuz. While there are many beautiful ideas, we have to remember to focus on what the Rebbe tells us to do. The Rebbe is clear and unambiguous, and by being true and unwavering to his precise instructions, we are sure to strengthen our hiskashrus, bring the Rebbe nachas, and move closer to his final goal.

Eitzos hobben mir, BH, bei vemmen tzu freggen (and I don’t mean Shmuel Eizik...). We need to turn to him and get his eitzos and guidance and instructions, and let them be our sole compass. In this way we will correct and reverse the error of the meraglim, and hasten our return to Eretz Yisroel together with Moshiach tzidkeinu NOW!

L’chaim! May we all apply ourselves to our shlichus in strict compliance with the Rebbe’s exact directives to us, and this Gimmel Tamuz should not be, ch”v, a 25th hilula or anything of the sort, but, rather, a shturem’dige chag hageula that we will celebrate together with the Rebbe in the most literal sense with the immediate hisgalus of Moshiach Tzidkeinu NOW!!!

Rabbi Akiva Wagner

Dear Alumni Sheyichyu!
Sholom U’Brocho!

Mazel tov to Sholom Guttleizer on the occasion of his engagement. May he use out this special period of yokor mikol yokor to its’ utmost! Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Yisrolik Langsam on the birth of their son. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Ephrayim Oster on the birth of their son. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Shlomo Barber on the birth of their daughter. Mazel tov to Rabbi and Mrs. Meir Chaim Brikman on the birth of their daughter. A special Mazel tov to Rabbi Mendel hakohen Aronow and family on the birth of the new grandson and granddaughter, may he experience the words of Chazal נולד בן זכר נתרפאה כל המשפחה, and he should have a refuah shleima and arichus yomim veshonim tovos in good health. May they bring them up lTOveCHuMAA”T mitoch harchovo, and to be true chayolim! (If anyone is aware of any mazeltov’s that I omitted please let me know).

Rabbi Avrohom Aaron Price was an accomplished talmid chochom, a gaon and an author of numerous seforim, who was a leading Rov in Toronto for many years. [In Igros kodesh chelek yud aleph there is a letter of the Rebbe to him, in which he also writes ha’oros on his seforim].

[He was originally a Poylishe, who emigrated to Toronto in 1937, and had a deep respect for the Rebbe, as illustrated in the following anecdote: Once there was an issue with a husband who refused to give his wife a get. Rabbi Price was one of the leading Rabbonim involved. One of the other Rabbonim suggested a certain way of disqualifying the kidushin and, thus, freeing the woman. Rabbi Price rejected that suggestion, and countered it with his own suggestion – “Write to the Lubavitcher Rebbe”, he countered, “and ask him to free her with the (only) other means available. If R’ Akiva Eiger was able to do it, then we can be certain that the Lubavitcher Rebbe is able to as well”].

Once the Rashag was in Toronto on a fundraising trip. The Rashag’s method of fundraising was that he wouldn’t travel around to people. Instead, he would stay in his (very high class) hotel, and would make appointments for people to come there to see him. Any anash who were able would also bring philanthropists and donors to see him.

During his stay, Rabbi Price came to the hotel to meet with him. During their conversation, Rabbi Price (who also had (if I’m not mistaken) an acute business sense, and was a wealthy man in his own right) told the Rashag that it was not fitting for him to have to travel around from place to place to solicit funds. Instead, he suggested a way with which the Yeshiva could become self-sufficient. “The Yeshiva should purchase a chain of theatres”, he suggested, “and it will be able to support itself with the revenue”.

The Rashag retorted: “Eitzos hobben mir bei vemmen tzu freggen! Efsher kent ihr brengen mir a por balei batim?” [For advice, we have whom to consult with! What is needed from you is to set up meetings for me with some wealthy donors].

This helps resolve a puzzling contradiction in our Parsha: A few maamorei Chazal seem to indicate that at the time that the meraglim were sent they were still innocent (as Rashi brings on the words כולם אנשים that באותה שעה כשרים היו - that they were still righteous at the time that they were sent, and as can be concluded from the very fact that Moshe agreed to send them).

But still other maamorei Chazal seem to indicate the opposite (such the interpretation of Chazal מה ביאתן בעצה רעה אף הליכתן בעצה רעה, and as we would seem to derive from the fact that Moshe saw a need, before they even left, to daven for Yehoshua קה יושיעך מעצת מרגלים).

The Rebbe explains that, certainly, at the time of their being sent, they had no evil schemes in mind. They did not dream, at that time, of the terrible betrayal that they would later carry out. What they were, however, guilty of, and the way in which they were, already, deviating ever so slightly from their mission, was in the fact that they were preparing to offer “eitzos”.

This is what Chazal mean by saying that they were going ב עצה רעה, what was bad, what was wrong, was the mere fact that they saw their position as one of offering advice. For in fact (as the Rashag said to Rabbi Price) they were not needed for their ideas and strategies. For eitzos, we had who to turn to; - Moshe Rabbenu, who conveyed the word of Hashem directly. Their mission was, rather, exclusively fact-finding. They were to bring back information, not to interpret it or to draw conclusions from it.

So, although this in itself was not sinful, it was enough cause for Moshe to daven that Yehoshua avoid even that subtle deviation. For, when you are called upon to produce facts, to give over the information as it is, then mixing your ideas and perspective is עצה רעה, it is not purely good. In fact, it was this very subtle deviation from the narrow definition of their mission that ultimately became the cause of their going astray in such a drastic and unexpected manner, with the subsequent tragic results.

We are all meraglim. We are here on the world as foreign agents, to conquer, subjugate and transform. We have very clear instructions and directives, regarding what exactly we are meant to achieve, what results we are seeking. But we are not needed for our analysis and strategic input regarding what will or won’t work. While we are supposed to use our intellect to figure out how to best fulfill our directives, we are not needed to find new strategies for achieving the end results. In fact, engaging in offering “eitzos” will ultimately lead to “eitzoh ro’oh”, - to negative and inappropriate conclusions.

A certain well known Jewish celebrity, a singer and musician, was once in yechidus. There, he complained to the Rebbe (about the halachik restrictions regarding the manner he conducts his concerts), saying “When I make a concert that is held according to the strict interpretation of halacha, with separate seating etc., I will attract a very small crowd. But when I make the concert with a bit more flexibility, the attendance increases tenfold, and I am able to influence so many more Jews in Torah and Mitzvos”.

The Rebbe, however, rejected his position, and wouldn’t condone his behavior.

This particular celebrity did, in fact, have numerous baalei teshuva to his credit, many who were, in fact, influenced by his concerts. Rationally, his argument seems to make a lot of sense. After all, he was doing G-d’s work, bringing Jews closer to Him. Doesn’t it make sense that he should be looking for the most effective way to do this? Shouldn’t the criteria be what will bring about the best results?

But, of course, he was wrong. Just as the meraglim were wrong. If it were up to him to strategize, to figure out the best way to achieve the final goal, that would be another thing. But, in fact, we are mere soldiers. We have to use our intellect to figure how to best carry out our orders. It is up to our generals, our commander, to figure out how to win the war.

And, while in that case, it is easier to see where he went wrong, since he strayed away from halacha, the error can be in many forms, that are often more subtle:

A bochur once wrote a letter to the Rebbe, in which he described his daily schedule. This bochur had discovered the tremendous benefit of learning Torah during the night-time hours, when there are no distractions and when it is easier to accomplish more in learning (as Chazal say לא איברי לילה אלא לגירסא). Thus – he wrote to the Rebbe – he began a schedule of learning many hours throughout the night, and making up for it by sleeping more hours during the day.

This schedule met with great success for him, and he managed to complete a number of mesechtos, and accomplish much in his learning. He concluded by writing to the Rebbe that he intends to continue in his successful learning arrangement, to go further in this “derech” that he had found for himself.

The response of the Rebbe was one word: Where the bochur wrote how he intends to continue following this derech, the Rebbe made an arrow to the side of the page, and wrote "לתהום"! [Implying that this path would lead him to great depths, to fall, rather than to great heights].

Once again, logically, the bochur seemed to have a good plan. This approach, particularly, seemed to be bringing him the intended results. But, still, he was (as we can see from the Rebbs’s response) very wrong. It was not his job to strategize, to figure out how to finish numerous mesechtos, as much as it was his responsibility to know what he is meant to do, which is to be actively involved in learning Torah within a designated structure.

To be sure, it is often a fine line. Because we are supposed to use our own understanding to figure out the best way to carry out Hashem’s directives. We have to strategize, to figure how to overcome the challenges that come up in our way, and how to avoid unnecessary difficulties. [Especially now, as the summer begins, and many bochurim are leaving the structure and environment of Yeshiva to engage in various types of shlichus, it is crucial that everyone have a strategy and a game plan for how to avoid the various yetzer hora’s – that are especially prevalent in the summer months – in matters of sur meira, and how to maximize their usage of the time in continuing to grow in Torah and davening, in areas of aseh tov].

But when crossing a certain line, we change from figuring out how to perform our shlichus, to carry out our instructions meticulously, to figuring a better way to reach the final goal, which is the beginning of “eitzah ro’oh”.

And there are countless examples of this. How many times do we hear bochurim (or young yungerleit) insisting that it can’t be that the limitation of four l’chayim’s applies to them because “I know myself, and I know that a mere 4 l’chayims will have no effect on me at all, and, therefore, not achieve the goal”.

But, wait! Who told you the goal is to have an “effect” on you, or what that effect is? Who told you to find ways to reach the goal? There is a directive from the Rebbe to hold a chassidishe farbrengen and to say l’chayim, so you participate in a farbrengen and say l’chayim, strictly according to your instructions. It is not your job to seek eitzos, to find better ways to achieve the results, only to be meticulous in carrying out the directives themselves.

Of course, this is a challenge. Because the objective of a farbrengen seems to be to address our feelings, our inspiration and excitement, the point of saying l’chayim seems to be to somehow awaken us and jolt us, so it seems logical that we should be focusing on how the farbrengen and the l’chayim would be most effective.

This was precisely the challenge of the meraglim as well. After all, the objective of meraglim, too, is to figure out, to use intellect to determine the best way the conquer the land. And yet, when they crossed the line from figuring out what their instructions were to applying their own ideas and eitzos, that was the beginning of their downfall.

It is Shabbos mevorchim Tamuz, and every single chosid is looking for what is appropriate to do and to undertake to prepare for the יום הגדול והנורא of Gimmel Tamuz. While there are many beautiful ideas, we have to remember to focus on what the Rebbe tells us to do. The Rebbe is clear and unambiguous, and by being true and unwavering to his precise instructions, we are sure to strengthen our hiskashrus, bring the Rebbe nachas, and move closer to his final goal.

Eitzos hobben mir, BH, bei vemmen tzu freggen (and I don’t mean Shmuel Eizik...). We need to turn to him and get his eitzos and guidance and instructions, and let them be our sole compass. In this way we will correct and reverse the error of the meraglim, and hasten our return to Eretz Yisroel together with Moshiach tzidkeinu NOW!

L’chaim! May we all apply ourselves to our shlichus in strict compliance with the Rebbe’s exact directives to us, and this Gimmel Tamuz should not be, ch”v, a 25th hilula or anything of the sort, but, rather, a shturem’dige chag hageula that we will celebrate together with the Rebbe in the most literal sense with the immediate hisgalus of Moshiach Tzidkeinu NOW!!!

Rabbi Akiva Wagner

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