It’s the most extraordinary custom I’ve ever heard of. I’m referring to a comment by Rabbeinu Bachaye, the great 13th century commentator, who mentions a practice of the Chassidim of Medieval France. When someone in their family sadly passed away, they would take wood from the person’s dining room table and with it, they would make the coffin. The idea here is that the merit of everything that we do around our tables accompanies us into the world to come.
The Shulchan
Rabbeinu Bachaye mentions that this is all based on a passage in Parshat Terumah. There the Torah introduces us to the Shulchan, the holy table which was used in the Sanctuary and later on, in the Temple, and it was upon that table that the לחם פנים, the showbread, would be brought as an offering before Hashem. That table was made of ‘עצי שטים,’ acacia wood, and Rabbeinu Bachaye quotes a midrash explaining that the four letters of the word ‘שטים’ stand for the attributes of that table. The shin (ש) stands for שלום meaning peace, the tet (ט) for טובה, goodness, the yud (י) for ישועה, salvation and the mem (ם) for מחילה, forgiveness.
Our Tables
Indeed, this is exactly what we find with regard to our tables today. First of all, the table is a place for family togetherness. There, we have ‘שלום – peace’ – שלום בית - serenity – our tables bond us together as families and give us many memorable experiences.
There, we have טובה – so much goodness happens around the table thanks to הכנסת אורכים, hospitality, and bringing needy people to have their meals with us.
All of this then contributes towards the ישועה, the salvation of our people.
Finally, מחילה, forgiveness: it was through the שולחן, the Table, in the Sanctuary and later the Temple, that Hashem gave מחילה, forgiveness, to our people, and so too it is thanks to the precepts we perform, the blessings we recite before and after we eat, the special mitzvot relating to food which we have at the table and the קדושה, sacred nature, of our meals, all of this will hopefully prompt Hashem to forgive us for our sins. And all of these precepts accompany us well into the afterlife. Therefore, while we readily recognize that we cannot take any of our worldly possessions with us when we go into the World to Come, one thing we can ensure – all of our good deeds around our table and wherever we are will never depart from us.
So let’s do the good deed of asking Hashem to keep our soldiers, police and medical professionals safe, especially through these trying times by adding a special prayer for the healing of all those injured, for the safe return of those taken as hostages, as well as Divine Protection for our brave IDF soldiers, police officers, medical professionals, firefighters, ZAKA members, security personnel and all those citizens protecting us in Israel as well as around the world, and for those who need healing, shidduchim, children or parnassah and may we be blessed to have the most awesome, gorgeous, beautiful, peaceful, healthy, amazing, relaxed, spiritual, safe, quiet and sweet Shabbat.
