25. A baal yesurim once came to Rebbe Mendel of Riminov zt'l, and he was krechtzing and moaning a lot. He asked Reb Mendel for a brachah. Reb Mendel replied, "Your moaning won't help you. You shall know that לַמ ָּאוֹר כָּת ִית, the purpose of your yesurim is that you should shine. Accept the yesurim with love, and then they will go away. Because when you accept them with love, it is considered that they did their shlichus, and then they can leave.
A mashal is told about a servant who was carrying a heavy load on his back. He had to carry it to another place. The load was heavy, so he decided to stop and rest for a moment, while the package was still on his back. He stood there and moaned about his heavy load. Someone told him, "Standing here won't help you at all. You are making it harder for yourself, because you are holding the load on your back for a longer extent of time. Better to go where you have to go and take the load off your back." The same can be said to the people who stand in one place and moan and cry over their yesurim. They would be better off to accept the yesurim with love. That will help the yesurim leave quicker.
Obviously, one should daven that the yesurim leave him. He should beg Hashem for rachmanus that the yesurim should end. (In fact, when one is in a tzarah, it is more important to daven. According to the Ramban, when one davens when he is in a tzarah, the tefillah is a mitzvah from the Torah.) When one davens, one can moan, to express before Hashem his immense tzaar. Who can measure the great holy value of a "Yiddishe krechtz," a moan from a Yid? But when one isn't davening, that is the time to accept Hashem's will with love. That will accomplish more. The yesurim will leave him. And he will earn many benefits from the yesurim, as we explained.
