and night your own needs that work for you. Be full only with your own Derech, and don’t be a: עֵׂינֵׂי כְסִיל בִקְצֵׂה אָּרֶץ משלי כז יד fool who is always looking “elsewhere”. You are full only with yourself and what helps you! **** There is a Torah type, a Chesed type, a Tefila type, a Baki, a: חָּ רִ יף sharp person, a: מַׁ כְ נִ יס אוֹרַׁ ח one who hosts guests, a: מְ שַׁ מֵׂ חַׁ one who cheers-up others. You need to be an expert in what you’re good at, and stay there your entire life. Moshe is Moshe, and Ahron is Ahron; no mixing and no confusing! A Baal Tzedaka for Ani'yim (the poor) or Almanos or Yeshivos, a Baki in Nezikin, or Kodoshim, or Moed, or Mussar, or a certain type of Bitachon, or a unique way of davening. Every Derech is a world by itself and has to be respected throughout your life, and never envy other D'rachim. *****
Such a breastplate gives light to the entire world. Each stone is filling up its golden box, and all 12 stones coexist with lots of Simcha, since they enjoy their own Derech and they are happy and Fargin all the other D'rachim. The only people who suffer from envy are those who don’t appreciate their own greatness enough, and they don’t have that “full” feeling. ******
Rodfei Kavod Need Other People’s “Holy” Opinions to Keep Them Happy
This is why Ahron was Zoche to the Choshen, since he was a: לֵׂב שֶשָּמַׁח בִגְדוּלַׁת אָּחִיו heart that rejoiced with his brother’s greatness. And the only way you can really be happy with another’s success is when you feel “full” with your own Matzav. People who don’t have enough Sipuk (satisfaction) from their own, feel empty, and therefore they look elsewhere to help themselves fill up. These are the Rodfei Kavod of the world, who need other people’s “holy” opinions to keep them happy. *******
They are not independent. Perhaps the Mitzva of the Cohen Gadol being “alone” in the Kodesh HaKodoshim on Yom Kippur (like it says: וְכָל אָדָם לֹׁא יִהְיֶה בְאֹׁהֶל מוֹעֵּד בְבֹׁאוֹ לְכַפֵּר בַקֹׁדֶש אחרי טז יז no other person shall be present when he enters) is a Remez on being self-sufficient without needing approval from anyone else. And he wears: כְ תֹנֶת "בַׁ ד" the K'sones of “Baad” (linen) which grows “alone” without any branches. בַד “Baad” and: הִ תְ בוֹדְ דוּ ת Hisbodedus is the same word. And it says: וְכִפֶר בַעֲדוֹ וּבְעַד בֵּיתוֹ אחרי טז ו he shall be M'chaper for himself and for his “house”, and Chazal say: בֵׂיתוֹ, זוֹ אִשְתוֹ משנה ריש יומא his “house”, this refers to his wife. A: בַׁ יִ ת house is a symbol of Tz'niyus (הִנֵּׂה בָּאֹהֶל), or it could mean a person who isn’t: סוֹמֵׂ ךְ (rely) on others, and is happy at home. I knew an elderly Almana who lived alone in a dangerous area of Brooklyn. She told me that being alone in her house didn’t bother her or scare her. ********
People can develop the ability of being: מִתבוֹדֵׂד alone with Hashem with practice and Tefila. It became easier for me when I realized that Hashem is the Shoresh (root) of all Hatzlacha, and a short time with Hashem can give much more than long hours with people. The Chovos Halvavos says: אֵּין הַתוֹעֶלֶת וְהַנֶזֶק מִן הַנִבְרָא אֶלָא מִן הַבוֹרֵּא שער הבטחון פרק ד People cannot help you or harm you; only Hashem can, and in Novardok this was a favorite piece of Mussar to always Chazzer (review).
People suffer because they don’t see the beauty and importance of Shviras HaMiddos. They live with “Daas HaOlam” where if you aren’t getting Kavod, it’s a disaster. A true Baal Bitachon doesn’t need Kavod, money, and Ta’avos to make him happy. His extra close relationship with Hashem makes him the happiest person in the world
