What should be done when some of the tzibbur don’t want any banging for Haman, or at least that it should be kept to the minimum; whereas some of the tzibbur does, and they want to fulfill the mitzvah of wiping out Haman behiddur, who wins?
The answer is that it is not possible to protest against those who follow the Rema and bang for Haman, however, it is also forbidden to continue banging once the ba’al koreh continues.
R’ Yehudah Chezner (Sha’arei Yimey HaPurim, pg. 58-59) writes: The minhag is to bang and we shouldn’t annul it, however, there is a limit to how much one needs to bang (one doesn’t need to bang for 15 minutes every time, and disturb the elderly; people who are fasting; and people who want to start with the mitzvos of the day).
Additionally, if by banging for Haman one disturbs a friend and causes machlokes, Haman who is sitting in gehenom is very happy to see other Jews causing pain to each other, despite the fact that he is also getting beaten! One also needs to be aware of the problems of making interruptions in the middle of the Megillah.
(If one is really bothered with the noise, he should look into organizing a special minyan where there is a zero-banging policy.)
