Revealed just as [our Sages deduce from the wording of the wedding blessings that are recited] in the blessing that concludes מְשַֹמֵחַ חָתָן עִּם הַכַלָה - “Who gladdens the groom with the bride” where the bride is equal to the groom, and on the contrary when Moshiach comes as the Possuk states נְקֵבָה תְסוֹבֵב גָבֶּר “A woman shall court a man”. For then, וְלֹא יֵבֹשׁוּ עַמִּי לְעוֹלָם “My people shall never be ashamed” since they will ascend so high due to their own ‘Avodah’ then the follow up ‘Birur’ (refinement) and the concomitant elevation.
Explanation of the Blessing
This is the ending of the final Brocha, and translates as “Who gladdens the groom with the bride” where the bride and the groom are equal and HaShem is gladdening them equally, in contrast to the sixth Brocha that finishes with the words המְשַׂמ ֵּֽחַׂ חָתָן וְכַׂלָ “Who gladdens the groom and the bride” and our Sages explain that this means that her blessing comes through her groom. As the Alter Rebbe writes in his Siddur (with Dach 138:3) The difference between them is known that when the blessing says “the groom rejoices with the bride,” [their polarity of giving and receiving will invert. While generally the male bestows and the female receives,] then the awakening of joy will originate with the bride and her joy will be to gladden her groom. Conversely, [in the sixth blessing, which describes our present, fallen state] by the phrase, “...who rejoices the groom and the bride,” the situation is reversed, and the arousal moves from groom to bride. Since the kindling of joy starts with him, the verse describes the sequence of joy as starting with the groom and afterwards the bride.
The Possuk States
Yirmiyohu (31:21) עַד מָתַי תִתְחַמָקִין הַבַת הַשוֹבֵׁבָה כִי בָרָא ה׳ חֲדָשָה בָאָרֶּץ נְקֵׁבָה תְסוֹבֵׁב גָבֶּר “How long will you hide, O backsliding daughter? For HaShem has created something new on the earth, a woman shall court a man.”
