Archive Q&A

Healing Pain in the Bones

I have a problem that’s bothering me. I feel like my bones are cutting into me when I sit down. When I lie down, I am feeling the shape of my bones whenever I move. The doctors cannot find what the issue is. Which of the Rav’s sefarim can help me (with the help of Hashem) to know how I can heal myself? Which sefer of the Rav speaks about how one can reveal his “etzem” (lit. “bone”, the “bone” or “essence” of the person) and how can one do it?

The sefer “Da Es Havayasecha” (Reaching Your Essence) explains how to reveal the inner etzem/essence of the soul, while the sefer “Da Es Atzmecha” (Getting To Know Your Self) explains the most external layer of the atzmiyus (essence) of one’s soul. It seems [from your description of your situation] that your element of earth is dominating your element of wind, so you need to balance those elements.

Quieting the Body

I am a 37-year-old bachelor. I have been suffering with the disease of “fibromyalgia” for many years, which has created a huge difficulty for me. There isn’t a single medication that has truly helped me, and it’s clear to me that it’s being caused by a deeper issue [in my psyche]. I am very sensitive and alert, and I have been looking for decades for different approaches that would balance out my emotional well-being, so that I could get to the root of my issue.

I have a strong element of “fire”, and it “burns up” my other elements. As an example, whenever I try to get closer to the world of spiritual self-development, when I try to gain a sense of chiyus (spiritual vitality) from any positive memories I have from my past, I immediately feel like I need to sit quietly, close my eyes, and think. Every time I try doing this, and every time I try going more within myself, my body becomes full of aching pain. This keeps preventing me from getting closer to healing my issues. It’s as if my body doesn’t want me to go within. But if I don’t try to go within myself, I’ll never get to the root of my emotional issues and then my physical symptoms won’t get healed. Should I keep continuing to try to go within myself [through sitting calmly, closing my eyes, and thinking] in spite of the fact that I am experiencing these aches in my body when I’m trying to do it?

This whole issue is causing me to give up, because I have an ability of subtle thinking and I try doing the Rav’s exercises, and sometimes I get a good feeling that there’s a better reality in store for me. But my body is pushing me away from this experience. What should I do...?

1. Quiet your body by lightly tasting different varieties of food.
2. Listen to a relaxing song.
3. Look at a scenic view.
4. Do any physical exercise for your body which calms your body.
5. Calm your body through breathing [inhaling and exhaling with conscious awareness].

Healing Pain in Right Eye

I have terrible pain in my right eye. The doctors aren’t sure of how to treat it. Does the Rav have any advice for me on what I can do for it, like tikkun that I need to do this so that my eye can get better?

The right eye is also called the “good eye” (ayin tovah), so the tikkun is to gain an ayin tovah, a positive view, of others. From now on, in anything you encounter make sure to think of at least one positive thing to say about it.

Headaches After Car Accident

1. 2 months ago and I was hit by a car and miraculously I wasn’t hurt, but ever since then I have intense headaches and I stay at home to learn, making sure not to strain my mind too much because then the headaches return. When I learn, my headaches come back. My doctors aren’t sure and they want to send me to a neurologist. Can the Rav tell me why it happened to me?
2. Does the Rav have advice on how the headaches can stop?
3. Do I need to give tzedakah and if so how much?
4. How can I use my time wisely when I’m learning at home and I can’t use my head as much?

1. Your avodah now is: (1) To repair unclean thoughts from the past, and also (2) To repair the problem of not using your power of thought enough. (3) Mainly so, Hashem wants you to open your heart now. Now it is easier for you to open your heart, because now you cannot use your brain (thinking) as much.
2. Learn in a way that’s pleasant (noam Hashem).
3. Give a coin every morning, from thanking Hashem for the miracles that happened to you.
4. Learn according to your ability, amidst pleasantness, and also make time for hisbodedus and open your heart. This is a gift from Hashem for you to reveal new world in yourself, of the heart.

With a blessing that you have a refuah shelaimah quickly.