Last year, a yungerman received a phone call from a particular organization. The person on the phone explained that the organization had fallen into debt, and they needed money to help them establish themselves. The yungerman replied, "Please give me some time to think about it. I have to figure out how much I can give."
This yungerman wasn't especially wealthy. He was simply one of the many people the organization called up randomly, as they tried to help their holy organization.
Not long afterwards, the yungerman's phone rang again. He looked at the number. It was the same organization that called him just before. He said to himself, "I told him I need time to think it over! Why is he calling me back so soon? I won't answer the phone."
Ten times, his phone rang that day, always the same number, and each time, the yungerman became more and more agitated. "Why are they running after me?" he asked himself. "I'm not the city's גביר (wealthy person)!" He was so upset that he decided that he wouldn't give the organization anything at all.
A couple of days later, he figured out what had occurred. The person who called him ten times on that day wasn't the organization asking for a donation. Although the phone numbers were similar – the reason the yungerman confused them – it was actually a friend who was calling him. The friend called ten times to tell him that he was interested in moving ahead with a shidduch which the yungerman had suggested some time ago. But after calling ten times, without any response, he decided to go to a different shadchan to finalize the shidduch.
When the yungerman heard about the shidduch, he called his friend and asked, "Why didn't you come to me, so I could be the shadchan to finalize the shidduch? Why did you take another shadchan?"
The man replied, "Of course, I wanted you to finalize the shidduch. I actually called you ten times for this purpose, but you didn't answer the phone. I had no choice but to take another shadchan. You will receive a third of the shadchanus money, because you thought of the idea. But the rest of the money will go to the shadchan who finalized the shidduch, as this is the halachah of shadchanus."
After this phone call, the yungerman looked back at his phone calls of that day, and realized that although the numbers were similar, it was indeed his friend who was calling him, and not the organization.
We learn from this story that when you think someone is bothering you, realize that this is all to help you. Something good will come from it. Don't push away the goodness. Accept the kindness Hashem is bestowing upon you.
