Perished That Are Cherished

The Darchei Chaim V’shalom writes that the Minchas Elazar would say in Birchas Hamazon, ha’rachaman hu yevareich es avi mori v’es imi morasi (may Hashem, the compassionate one, bless my father my teacher and my mother my teacher) even after his parents passed away.

This was expressed by R' Shlomo Shapiro (1832–1893), author of the Shem Shlomo. He directed this and told his son R' Tzvi Hirsch Shapiro (1850–1913), author of the Darchei Teshuva, that chazal say to honor your parents during their lifetime and after their death and parents need a bracha even when they are already in heaven.