Always Insist on Seeing Yourself as a Winner and a Success

Or, if his family gives both nachas and Agmas Nefesh, he should refer to his family as a nachas. Always insist on seeing yourself as a “winner” and a success:

• “I am a born winner!”
• “I usually do the right thing”
• “I like my job”
• “I like my nature”
• “I like my situation”

R’ Avigdor Miller Zatzal points out how we always say: כ ל הַ נ א הַ ו חֲסוּד ה “a beautiful Kalla”, no matter what the truth is.

• “I like the world”
• “I like myself”
• “I like my particular Peckel” (What Peckel? I’m barely aware of it, since I’m always learning Shaar HaBitachon!)
• “I like my habits” (good and bad)
• “I like my past” (good and bad).

TRUE STORY
A Yungerman went to hear a Chabura (an informal shiur) by one of his peers, and he was lost. His friends were way ahead of him. They were into a hot Pilpul, and he couldn’t keep up, and he felt depressed. He kept saying: “I like being left out and dejected, and I like feeling like a nobody”, etc. This did wonders for him, and in the end, he davened for all those people who he had so much Kin'ah for, and he felt like a million dollars.