Any person who even just thinks that he’s a שְ נוּאָ ה unwanted type, or feels rejected or disliked or unappreciated in any way, should know that Hashem is super close to him!
STORY
During WWII in 1943 the allies were flying B17 bombers from England to knock out strategic areas in Germany. An American named Charlie Brown was on a mission to drop tons of explosives on Bremen, Germany. On the way back towards the English Channel, his plane was hit mercilessly by German antiaircraft, and with Nissim it kept flying.
A much-celebrated officer from Germany was assigned to fly with his Messerschmidt aircraft to destroy the B17 completely. He had already knocked out about 30 enemy planes, and he needed one more to earn him the much coveted “iron cross”, a coveted super-high honor.
This German (Franz Stigler) was not a Hitlerist, Y'mach Sh'mo, and his General had once told him that if he’d ever hit a pilot while he was parachuting in the air, then the General would kill him! It was interesting that he felt that a person shouldn’t forget that he’s an Adam, and he’d have to live for the rest of his life with the horrific guilt of acting like an animal, Rachmana Litzlan.
Franz noticed that the unfortunate B17 had two severely wounded men on board, and the plane was missing all kinds of vital parts. He knew that if the German anti-aircraft would see his Messerschmidt flying alongside the B17, they would assume that the B17 was really one of their own, which they had captured and repaired to use for themselves (a common procedure) and they wouldn’t shoot.
Franz decided to save the B17; and at the cost of being shot or court-marshalled by the Germans. He decided that preserving “his humanity” was more important than being awarded with the “iron cross”. (About 50 years later, Charlie and Franz located each other and became best friends.)
We see how even a gentile has a feeling for the: נִ ר דָ ף defenseless, despite being his arch enemy. (Indeed, international law prohibits shooting a parachutist in the air). How important it is to be full of compassion for human beings.
A Yid Should Have an Open Heart for All Broken-Hearted People
And look how difficult it was for Avraham Avinu to agree with Sara Imeinu (to expel Hagar and her son, Yishmael), despite Yishmael’s wickedness. Just as a Yid should have an open heart for all broken-hearted people (which is almost everybody, in some way or other), so should he have Rachmanus on himself, and judge himself L'kaf Zechus, instead of being cruel in his: יבְִת ְעוֹת self-demands, unless it has a Tachlis.
Those “weird” types or “nebachs” are all Nisyonos Min HaShamayim to see if you can still respect and care for them, and be Dan them L'kaf Zechus. To try to focus on their Maalos, and last but not least, respect yourself! “I’m Chashuv!” Be careful not to cheapen people!
