The Gemara (Bava Metzia 87a) explains that the Malachim knew of Sarah’s whereabouts; yet they inquired in order to endear her to her husband by bringing attention to her excellence in the middah of Tznius. Rashi adds that in this attribute Sarah was a Tz’nuah Yoser Meichavroseha, that her trait was extraordinary amongst her peers.
Rav Elya Baruch Finkel zt”l explains that even beyond complimenting a trait of Sarah’s, the Malachim highlighted a unique characteristic that she possessed. One can continually strengthen a relationship with others by focusing on their unique attributes and abilities. This leads to genuine admiration and appreciation.
Rabbi Zlotowitz z”l would point out that we are discussing two of the greatest people in history, Avraham and Sarah, who at this point were married for many, many years. Yet still, a Malach sought to compliment her to her husband and this occurrence is noted in the Torah. How much more careful and proactive must spouses be nowadays in fostering mutual endearment!
