In the Israeli family's home, the atmosphere was tense, every day arguments broke out between the couple. Conversations with rabbis, reading articles and good receipts didn't help, the two just couldn't stop arguing.
One evening, an Israeli gentleman sat in his yard and came to the conclusion that there were arguments in his house... "My wife just can't hear well! That's why she doesn't understand me, and this creates tension in the house." The very next day, an Israeli gentleman walked to the hearing aid store to buy his wife a hearing aid. When the seller heard his request, he told him: "You can't sell a hearing aid, but to a person who needs a hearing aid himself, I need to know her hearing level, in order to fit her with the most accurate device." An Israeli gentleman answered, "But I want to surprise her! It's a gift"... "If so, go home and check her hearing level and come back to me," the salesman suggested. An Israeli gentleman returned to his house, entered the last room and shouted to his wife, who was in the kitchen at the time:
"What did you prepare for dinner?" When she did not answer, an Israeli gentleman approached and shouted again: "What did you prepare for dinner?" Quiet, there was no sound and no answer... An Israeli gentleman kept getting closer until he reached a meter from her, raised his voice and asked: "What did you prepare for dinner?" His wife turned to him and said: "I've been telling you several times that I make an omelet with vegetables!" Then an Israeli gentleman realized that he was the one who didn't hear well...
He went the next day and bought himself a hearing aid, and the silence returned to their home...
If we went to an ophthalmologist, most of us would probably need glasses, not regular eyeglasses, but glasses through which we can see our own defects... More often than not, we make the other deaf, blind and stupid – just out of fear that we might find that the defect is actually in our place, to stand up and say: "The mistake is mine"... And then we will have to correct our shortcomings. It is not for nothing that Chazal said (Kiddushin 70b): "Whoever disqualifies is disqualified" – when you disqualify your friend because of his obvious shortcomings in your eyes, the reason for this is actually because these are your shortcomings, and in fact the defects within you are what bother you with your friend. Instead of looking all day long for the shortcomings of the other and how your majesty surpasses everyone else, take a little look at yourself and your inner self, it is possible that all the problems around you come from you... When you do this, you will see in reality how your life is calmer, more peaceful, and happier... And amazingly, the lives of everyone around you!!
