As much as I encourage having Bitachon in getting what you want, it’s not healthy to be a person who MUST get all he likes, or else he’s depressed and/or angry or impatient. He’s like an Oved Avoda Zara, Chas V’shalom, who even becomes violent against his own god! A family asked me about their child, who was lonely without siblings and he was in pain. Of course there is what to be said to console such a child. Yet, I told them that having some pain is not the “end of the world!” (And having such an attitude can be beneficial for the child).
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The Chofetz Chaim has a Mashal about a Jew who was flogged by the antisemitic assistant of the Poritz who was an: אוֹהֵּ ב יִ שְ רָ אֵּ ל (one who loves Jews). When the Poritz found out what his assistant did, he hanged the assistant, and for every lash the Jew received, he was compensated with a priceless gold coin. The Jew was sad that he hadn’t received more lashes, because then he would have ended up with more money.
The Avos knew the unreal Maalos of Yissurim, and as a result they: בִּכְלַל totally didn’t suffer the way you would think. They were all extremely Sameach B'chelko people, and the opposite of complaining. Aderaba: קָטֹנְתִי מִכֹל הַחֲסָדִ ים (Vayishlach 32:11) he is humbled from all of Hashem’s Chesed.
