Shidduch Advice
1. Knowing what is important, a lot of secondary matters become insignificant.
2. First and foremost, the person should be trustworthy, so that he can be fully relied upon in all his promises relating to the establishment of a truly Jewish home, a binyan adei ad.
3. In matters of a shidduch, as in any other thing, it is no good limiting oneself, or limiting G-d’s help, to any particular and narrow objective.
4. When it comes to marriage, this should not be tied in with any expectation to educate, or re-educate, the would-be partner, especially where such education would be required at almost every step. Human nature is such that when a person is pressured into making concessions for the sake of another person — every day and many times a day — without as yet seeing any reason for doing it except to please the other partner, this is not a healthy situation, and it is bound to generate resentment and disharmony.
Excerpts of letters, The Rebbe’s Responsa, Issue 80
Tes Kislev: The Yom Holedes and Yom Hilula of the Mitteler Rebbe, Admor DovBer, eldest son of the Baal Hatanya Yud Kislev: We celebrate the day the Mitteler Rebbe was released from prison in Russia.
UFARATZTA RABBI SHALOM BER MUNITZ
