Giving the Other Man the Benefit of a Doubt
Shabbos Stories | December 17, 2023
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Giving the Other Man the Benefit of a Doubt

Shabbos Stories | December 31, 2025

Rabeinu Bachye writes in Chovos HeLevavos (Sha’ar HaK’niah 10) that someone once asked a wise man, “Why is it that you were able to become the leader of your entire generation?”

The wise man replied, “It is because I never met someone that I didn’t see in him a quality that he is greater than me in. If he was smarter than me, I would say that he must have more Yiras Hashem than me, since his wisdom is greater than mine. If he had less wisdom than me, I considered that his final judgement at the end of our lives will be better than mine, and he will be held less accountable than I will be. This must be because my Aveiros were done on purpose, but his Aveiros were all done by accident.

If he was older than me, I would reason that surely his Zechusim must be greater than mine, since he came to this world before me. If he was younger, I would think that he surely did less Aveiros than me, because he wasn’t here as long as I have been. If we were the same age and we had had the same level of wisdom, I would say to myself that perhaps his heart is more devoted to Hashem than mine is, because I know of all my past Aveiros, but I don’t know of any Aveiros that he committed.

If he was wealthier than me, I would say that he can serve Hashem better than me because of his wealth, and he could give to various Tzedakah causes and support poor people more than I could. If he had less money than me, I would think that he was more-humble than me, due to his being poor, and he is really a better person than I am. And because of this, I would honor all people and humble myself before them.”

He explained that this was the reason he was appointed as the leader of all the people!

Rabeinu Bachye writes in Chovos HeLevavos (Sha’ar HaK’niah 10) that someone once asked a wise man, “Why is it that you were able to become the leader of your entire generation?”

The wise man replied, “It is because I never met someone that I didn’t see in him a quality that he is greater than me in. If he was smarter than me, I would say that he must have more Yiras Hashem than me, since his wisdom is greater than mine. If he had less wisdom than me, I considered that his final judgement at the end of our lives will be better than mine, and he will be held less accountable than I will be. This must be because my Aveiros were done on purpose, but his Aveiros were all done by accident.

If he was older than me, I would reason that surely his Zechusim must be greater than mine, since he came to this world before me. If he was younger, I would think that he surely did less Aveiros than me, because he wasn’t here as long as I have been. If we were the same age and we had had the same level of wisdom, I would say to myself that perhaps his heart is more devoted to Hashem than mine is, because I know of all my past Aveiros, but I don’t know of any Aveiros that he committed.

If he was wealthier than me, I would say that he can serve Hashem better than me because of his wealth, and he could give to various Tzedakah causes and support poor people more than I could. If he had less money than me, I would think that he was more-humble than me, due to his being poor, and he is really a better person than I am. And because of this, I would honor all people and humble myself before them.”

He explained that this was the reason he was appointed as the leader of all the people!

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