They have to do it. They can't help themselves; they're chained together in marriage. And they have sons and daughters. They have to marry them off eventually and then their grandchildren come and then the families all the time are busy making peace with each other. With mechutanim you also have to get along.
It’s work. But it’s the best type of work because it’s the great achievement of character. They have perfected themselves with years of toiling, years of restraining themselves, of keeping their tempers, of being patient. And it’s so great that the place where it happens becomes a place of holiness – like Shabbos, like the Mikdash, it becomes a place of an especial presence of the Shechinah.
Because of the perfection of character that they both achieve, the area between the four walls of their home, their little humble abode, becomes a place of intense kedushah because the Shechinah dwells there with an intensity unmatched anywhere else.
